Heelp got a sinking feeling......

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My DH has turned into someone I don't know anymore and have now started to find (frankly) unattractive. We have been together 8 years, married for 4 and have 19month old son. Our relationship has always been good. We have had problems and always talked them through, had some counselling too in the past. It has all started to get out of control since having our DS. Sex has disappeared (that is my fault, i don't want it, mostly knackered and not interested) I suffered with PND after giving birth to our son.
My DH mother has not supported us at all and only ever criticises me which has increased tension between us and her..... We have financial worries that aren't solvable at all. He seems to be incapable of making any kind of decisions without lookig at me for direction.... it sounds pathetic I know. But I don't know where my husband has gone its like having 2 toddlers in my house and I am the only adult. The stress is starting to get to me too and all we end up doing is not speaking or arguing. We can't spend a day together without sparring. I think he's depressed but don't know what to do. he told me the other day that he didn't think we would be together if we hadn't of had our son...

Any advice from out there, anyone gone through the same situation, any advice on depression for him??????

Poor you, you sound miserable. He's probably right you probably wouldn't be together if you hadn't have had your son, but you did, so it is worth fighting for. I've been through a similiar scenario and gotten through it, although my dp wasn't depressed but I was. I tried ad's and they diddn't really work but I think they can work so may be worth a try, could you suggest a visit to the gp to your dh?
Steer clear of the MIL btw, unless she has any help to offer(ie financially)

oh dear...poor you, there's a lot going on there. Would either of you consider counselling? Would you two be able to take some time out for just the two of you and get someone to look after your child? Sounds like you need a bit of time to remember why you first wanted each other and then gently tell him what you need and expect from him and offer him the chance to do the same.

thanks for the info back. He has since phoned me today to say he is going to see the GP on Friday so hopefully the GP will help a bit. We do have his parents to look after him for a while but I am loathe to let them look after my ds as all they do is criticise the fact that he has too much fruit, not enough or too much sleep, too much of a routine etc etc etc etc. This is one of the big problems we have got, I want to talk to his parents and he doesn't want to confront them. We found out they had bad mouthed our parenting to someone else and I went mad.... has been festering ever since but they look after him sometimes when I work so in a very difficult situation! The initmacy has definately disappeared and because I am coping with the day to day stuff all on my own I think I am resenting him... possibly making it worse cos it makes him feel useless..... I'm a little bit lost and he is too lazy to deal with it. Don't think he will go on AD's.... not sure if that is a solution. It's his attitude I think.