Do you trust your gut instincts?

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I have some confidence and self esteem issues which I think effect my ability to trust my own instincts when it comes to people and relationships in particular.

I find myself second guessing myself and doubting my doubts if that makes sense.

I recently ended a six month relationship with a guy who I had particular gut instinct about that was not very positive. I was just not very sure about him quite early on and throughout our relationship kept doubting my instinct that it was not right for me. Now that it has ended I still am doubting whether I was right in dumping him.

I won't go into specifics, but many of the things he did and said ticked many "red flag" lists. If a friend or someone on here was to write about him I would be "oh ffs, LTB!" but because it was me I sort of became blinded by all these doubts etc. I didn't trust myself if I was just being paranoid etc.

How much do you trust your gut instincts? Have you found that they are always right?

yes, trust your gut instincts but use your head as well. for me, very occasionally the gut instinct can be wrong (hence use the head as well) but they are mostly correct.

If this man's behaviour ticks many red flags and if he was going out with one of your friends and you'd be saying LTB, then without doubt you did the right thing. Your gut instinct led you true here and head has to be agreeing as well becuase it's looking at the objective evidence (the red flags).

I would always trust my gut instinct.
But I'm a logical person as well if that makes any sense?
He ticked lots of boxes so you did the right thing.
Stop doubting yourself.
Can you get some counselling/therapy for your low self-esteem.
Also, if you need reassurance that you know what red flags to look for then you can always do the Freedom Programme for piece of mind and for future relationships.