How do I deal with this issue - advice needed?

[Reese123]

I started dating someone who is quite a bit younger than me, who slept with me then subsequently ended it. We work together, it's really awkward now, how do I handle this situation? I'm so annoyed, I thought I was going into a long term relationship and was open and honest with them, only for them to treat me like this.

Channel your inner ice queen. You'll need to be professional, if you work together, but it's perfectly possible to work alongside someone without a hint of friendliness. Pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and treat him with the chilly disdain he deserves. I do hope he's not in a position of authority over you - if he is, he has behaved beyond appallingly.

Thank you - that's what I have been doing, I didn't want to seem irrational - I try to always be nice to people. No, he's not in a position of authority.

I don't know if all men are like that - and just wanted to get some advice from the more worldly people out there. Thanks again

Obviously not every single man is the same. I wonder how long you had been seeing each other before you slept with him? Did you actually date, did you ever get to know each other and most importantly, did you ever discuss where you were going with the relationship?
Yes, it will be awkward for a while but guess that's the drawback of sleeping with someone that you work with.
Just put it down to experience now. These things happen unfortunately.

Dated for 3 weeks, although he asked me out 6 weeks before that and I antagonised over it for 5. Yes, I couldn't have made my feelings about where I wanted to go any clearer than I had.

I just feel like shite, he got what he wanted and buggered off after it.

Why did you think you were going into a long-term relationship?

Because I said I don't do short term relationships, he said he didn't do short term relationships.

He obviously didn't see it as a relationship full stop. I just think you should say nothing. Be professional and courteous if you need to speak to him in a work capacity but other than that keep your distance

So you were seriously expecting the both of you to just 'click' and that would be it for the foreseeable future? You had three dates, it didn't work out, it's mildly embarrassing to still have to see the guy at work... I don't really understand the level of indignation, sorry.

I previously dated someone for 5 years who I worked with, he basically cheated on me with another person at work (which this guy knew). So, for me it was a massive leap of faith to venture into a relationship with someone else I worked with, I liked him for 2 months. Sometimes the heart rules the head - I cant really help the way I feel, otherwise trust me I wouldn't feel like this!!!!

My actual question was about how I deal with this at work, it wasn't a battering about the way I feel!!! I realise I am feeling sorry for myself - this will hopefully pass in time.

The best way to deal with it at work is to pretend nothnig happened between the two of you, treat him like you would anyone else at work, compartmentalise.