I've name changed for this as I don't want exP reading it. But the breakdown of our relationship was discussed at length here and I got loads and loads of wonderful support. It's been 6 months now, since he left after I discovered his affair and it's been v difficult at times.
We have 2 dcs.
I hate the house we live in for a number of reasons, style, location, configuration, work that needs doing etc etc. I hated it when we moved in and it was the cause of many rows and much debt.
I put it up for sale 4 weeks ago and have had an asking price offer.
If I sell and give exP half equity I will never buy again as I will never afford it. If I don't I'll be stuck somewhere I hate and financially tied to him - and I despise him. But I'm going to need to house the kids, I don't think he should get 50% equity as I will need more to provide children with decent home, he only needs it to be good enough for overnight visits. We were not married, we both work ft, earn the same, he made equal contribution to house throughout. We both took equal debt when he left.
When I mentioned to him maybe not 50% he went mad, employing the old bullying threatening tactics he's fond of. Said he needs all the equity due to debt. Said I'll be ok (as I paid deposit and wisely protected that, though he is already downplaying how much I paid in by several grand).
Solicitor says he can't force sale until youngest 18 - 15 years away.
What should I do? Call it quits, or pull out and stay here with all the stress that entails? If I go I'll be freer of him and can maybe rent somewhere nicer. If I stay I'll be financially stronger but tied to him, though he's getting on in age and once he finds some other woman who will have him he will probably get off my back a bit.
Please help me decide