Ex got in touch

[paws4thought]

Help - my ex got in touch via text on sunday and i can't get it out of my head. I haven't seen or heard from him in 3 years so it was a bit of a shock. He wants to keep in touch and he even had the nerve to ask to see me whilst his girlfriend is away. i feel guilty as it is for not telling my husband about the text so there is no way that i would go through with it. I'm just a bit confused. Any advice. By the way - i'm still in love with my ex.

the man is clearly what my nan would call "a wrong'un"

he is texting you 3 years after you split when he ( i assume) knows yu have a new partner and he certainly has.

just remember all the reasons you split. tell your DP Aabout the text..that way your less likely to reply

you're married
End of
non contact
simple

Maybe if you don't respond you will always think you are still in love with him and you will never know for sure ...? You could meet him somewhere like in a cafe in the afternoon where nothing would happen except to talk? You could tell your dh about it , after all meeting for coffee isn't wrong.

Please don't rise to it. Is it worth ruining your marriage over? Can you honestly say that you do not love your husband and that this ex would be a better partner and/or (if you have children) a better father to your children. Please really think about this. If you did do anything with this ex, could you live with the guilt, seeing as you feel guilty enough about a text?? His girlfriend is away. He probably just wants sex to be honest. I am sorry if I seem harsh, but I have seen too many marriages ruined by ex's.

sorry love, but all this guy wants is a cheap sh@g. He is just trying to use you (and cheat on his gf at the same time - the shit). Deep down you know this is true - that's why you are married to someone better. Resist with all your will-power because the other option leads only to heartache.

You see this is where the male and female minds are different, you are remembering the good times and how much in love you were, he is remembering the great sex you had.
If this was ok and he was just wanting to meet up with you he would have invited both of you around for dinner with his gf or something innocent not a surreptitious meeting with neither of your partners knowing about it. Run my dear!!

I know i shouldn't have anything to do with him as he is a class A shit. He used to be abusive and did some really horrid things to me. god knows why i still love him. We were together for a very long time thats all i can think it is. he even had sex on various occasions with my best friend behind my back and then got me pregnant and threatened me into getting rid of the baby. he really messed my life up and i'm now happily married with a DD but i suppose the text just threw me and i'm now very confused. i don't want to see him but just wish he had never text so that i don't even have to think about him.

so its not love that you feel for him its habbit.

if you must reply then reply with this.

i am happily married and if yournto then split with your girlfreind before trying to bed others. your a low life shit and would rather sew my fanjo up than slep woith you. do not contactme again or i shall inform my DH!

change your number, cut him out he is dirt.

delete the text. do not respond. remove his number from your phone. tell your dh. this man is scum. you think you're still in love with him because you want his approval. you're in love with the memory of what he could be, not him.

sobernow - just sent that text to him.Thanks ever so much!