This maybe long so don't feel you have to read it.
About a month ago DH was very upset after chatting to his sister on the phone. I managed to get him to talk to me and discovered that his parents had abused him and his sisters all their life, his brother got away with it (he is the golden child) his mum sat there and watched his dad beat the daylights out of them, she encouraged her eledest son to beat up his sisters and DH too, DH had blocked most of it out of his mind. But chatting to his sister brought it all back.
ABout 4 years ago, SIL told MIL had BIL was on coke and that she was worried about him. MIL refused to belive this and shut SIL out of her life, including her grandkids, the thing was BIL was on drugs and was addicted badly,but we couldn't get involved too. DH told MIL that it was all true about 3 weeks ago. She is now saying she belives SIL but refuses to do anything about it.
Also MIL and Step FIL have looked after my other SILs kids for 6 years after school till their mum picks them up. MIl used to phone me up and bitch about the kids and moan that they won't do as they are told, shouting at them while walking to me, they weren't allowed to move off the sofa, play with anything noisy, incase it woke BIL (whos 30) Now SIL has decided to move her kids to a different school and put them into the Fun factory after school, so she had to break the news to MIl had she was removing the kids from her care. MIL went bent, saying all sorts, like "You taking the kids away from me" (em.... whose kids are they??) "you lot all knew about it" We found out about it 4 days before her as SIL throught she should warn us that the sh*t was about to hit the fan. We got a phonecall while we were on holiday with the kids, with her shouting and screaming at us. We lied and said we knew nothing about it. Of course she then phoned other SIL (the black sheep of the family) and started saying she was to blame.
Yesterday while I was out MIL phoned here and started screaming at DH that it was MY fault bacause I had told MIL to get rid of the kids if they pi**ed her off so much, when she had phoned me so many time moaning about them, and that I must have told SIl to take the kids away.
Also we went out on saturday for meal with MIL+Step FIL and BIL and GF to celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary, and she satrted on about she wasn't going to make a fool of herself like SIL, who has decided to re-new their vows for their 10th wedding anniversary, and all I said was that wa a bit nasty and its SIls choice how she celebrates her anniversary, of course I ruined the WHOLE evening with that comment.....
She says I am being off with her, but is it any wonder?? I have said to DH, she ain't seen nothing yet....
Do I just ignore it all.....??