GPS Trackers and other useful devices

[TheCheatersWife]

My H is cheating on me.

There is a huge long back story but what I want to ask about is tracking where he is going.

I know his routine well. I am thinking of planting a GPS tracker (or something else, if anyone can suggest anything)to track where he goes.

I know its illegal to track someone without their knowledge but it just so happens that he drives a car I own and thats in my name so - I will in effect be tracking my own car.

Please - I know some of you may mean well but I dont want to be told I should be putting my energy into dumping the cheating bastard and moving on. I am trying hard with that but i NEED to know.

My NEED to know who I am married to exactly and what he actually does is something I cannot get past (talking several years) and over the past few weeks when I have been the closest I have ever been to starting proceedings to leave him, I keep coming back to the fact I want, well no, I NEED to know, who I have been with for the past 20 years.

He is the perfect deceptionist. I think he sevretly thrives on the fact I only know of his cheating but do not know who, what exactly it involves. I dont even know if its other women, gang bangs, dogging, usuing prostitutes or god knows what. He drives off into the night - thats all I know. He currently thinks he is getting away with it and I am oblivious.

I just need to know this - my own little victory against him - just to know what it is he does and where he goes. He would rather see the marriage end offering no answrs than ever tell me anything at all.

I know the dynamics of our relationship are thoroughly fucked up. I have recently seen the light and with the recent help of some mumsnetters am plucking up the courage to leave - but I can't leave until I know what I want and need to know. Once I have left, I will never have the chance to find out. I need to do this for me.

So what is the easiest way for me track where he goes in my car? I dont have a spare smart phone, so not sure about aps. I need something simple to use and set up (I am a technophobe). It needs to be fairly accurate and silent and reliable. The smaller the better so I can hide it well (he hides condoms etc in the car).

So please - anyone done this? Can suggest anything? How can I easily track where my car goes?

Curly Wurly if you used a hardware key logger (literally inserting the USB before the person went on the computer to do their work and taking it out afterwards) it would depend on the security level on the computer. There are a few websites where you can see how to disable some of the more vigilant security computer searches to hide the key logger. And once you take the USB key logger out there is no trace of it having been in the computer.

The software one is harder to disguise. So if someone suspects they're being spied on and you have downloaded software and they do a search, there is a chance it might come up. Software key logger is definitely for the unsuspecting person.

Flexispy is a whole package with a 24 hour help line. So if you do get access to a computer or phone you want to install it on you can get walked through all the stages of lowering the security on the computer so the software isn't detected.

Interesting thanks for the reply.

This is mad. If you absolutely know he's cheating, why does it matter who with? Just get rid. It sounds like you're driving yourself crazy, and chances are he knows it, and is letting you go quietly off your head. Definitely LTB. (My first ever)

I will just say that I was offered advice from someone on Mn in 2011 when my H was cheating online, to install a hardware key logger.

I tried and Norton anti virus security picked it up immediately.

I totally understand the need to know. I did. Nobody could persuade me otherwise at the time. But a year or more later I properly understood it hadn't been necessary.

I'm not sure tracking him will really be useful to you but if you're determined and can get hold of his phone for a while...

There is an app called Cerberus - it's paid but not hugely expensive. I have it installed on mine and my DDs phones incase they or she get lost.

It allows you to check the location of the phone, get the call log / message log, take a photo or a screen shot remotely. I believe (not 100% certain) that once it's installed you can hide it from the system tray so it won't show up in the apps list. You can log in on a pc to get the information or use cerberus (dashboard?) app on your own phone to send commands by text. The texts don't appear on the phone.

Might be worth looking in to.

For clarity DD is aware it's on her phone after an incident where she fell asleep at a mates and scared me half to death - she trusts me not to abuse it and I don't - though I do occasionally use it to set off a loud alarm if she fails to respond to texts / calls because her phone is on silent .

you have 2 cars can't you just discretely follow him? why does he go out in your car not his?

what time of day does he go out? what does he say he's doing?

Double checked on my phone - you can click hide from app draw in cerberus and it disappears from the app list, so he wouldn't know it was there - to get into it after that you have to dial a number (which you get from in the app settings) so it would be unlikely he'd accidentally discover it.

Felicity's little unit has a motion sensor in it too.

You could bury it in the back seat of the car and find out if he's shagging anyone on it.

I used a tracker in my XH's car. We were supposedly working on our marriage. He wanted to go out with friends and I felt he was still lying - although I hoped he was telling the truth. The tracker showed me that he left our house and went straight to the OW's. I needed to know and he was a very convincing liar. That was the end of our marriage.

One way people can access cash covertly is just by using cashback. I used to know someone who would only partly fill up the car, take money out as cash back to equal what a full tank would cost and it just looked like a fuel heavy car. He hid thousands from his wife using cashback.

When I worked in taxi service GPS Tracking Device was very helpful. I bought GPS Live Tracer here - www.uspystore.com/gps-tracking-devices. It works great.

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Can you get access to the car without him for a couple of hours? My car has a tracker fitted (it’s an insurance thing) but it’s completely hidden and silent (in fact I don’t actually know where it is!) but I can track the car on my phone or computer every second? Took about an hour to fit….