Is there a term for when somebody gets cross or upset with you because of what they think you're thinking?

[BoldFossil]

i learnt about gaslighting and stonewalling here and I just wanted to google a bit about this.

wellwhoknew yes, it is some form of that!

andthebandplayedon would have taken me longer to see it if it weren't for my apprenticeship on MN. Thank God for mn.

Now he's texting me saying 'how could i believe a word you say when you spent x years with somebody you didn't love'. (my x, children's father). I did spend years with him when i didn't love him but it was out of fear, low self-esteem, isolation, having nowhere to go and no money when i got there. I did in the end leave and I've never regretted it. I totally rebuilt my life. I'm financially secure now. How dare he rake over things in my past that I'm at peace with.

Christ on a bike, are you me? Had the same shit thrown in my face, word for word:
'Well, I might be an abusive aresehole, but you tolerated another abusive arsehole for years, so how come he gets a get out of jail free card??' (while you are struggling desperately to maintain civil relations with your DC's father, because, well you are a decent person trying to do the right thing...)