Sinead O'Connor's open letter to ex.

[Paddywackery]

Sinead O'Connor writes open letter to her abusive, cocklodger ex.

www.sineadoconnor.com/2014/09/dear-ravey-dave/

I think it is a brave thing to do and hope he stays away.

I put this in relationships to show how noone is immune to these types of relationships.

Thanks for posting the link Paddy. Fair play to her. People like him hide behind respectability and abuse behind closed doors. It makes me sick. I would love to have sent such a letter to everyone who knows my EX but wouldn't have coped with the World War that would have ensued.

Posting may also keep her safe because the police do not take stalking seriously at all.

To Sinead

What is it with all these open letters?? Didn't she write one to Miley Cyrus also?

All a bit attention seeking really.

Very psychodynamic, I like it.

She's got the measure of him, and most abusive men I think. They hate all women, because they despise their mothers 'weakness' at being abused by their father. Who can do no wrong because it's not 'safe' to express negative emotions towards him.

It's very sad really. But that in no way excuses abuse.

Its too long, but very effective nonetheless.

Kudos to her. If it gives her closure and helps others find the courage to leave, then well done.

Very empowering for so many women in a similar boat, who get to read that clarity.

Respect!

Good for her. I suspect it is way of taking back power from this arsehole abuser. I hope it has the desired result.

I dont think its fair she brought his mothers business into it, this is her life and story to tell.
The letter would have been just as effective without that.

I read it half way the it was just too much. I like her but, I dunno, something doesn't sit right. She had always tried to be controversial. I don't kno how to take that letter tbh.

She loves her open letters doesn't she?

Do you think we will all get one?

I hope the nasty bastard leaves her alone now.

Im not sure kukesi it shows how it perpetuates down through the generations when not addressed, and it pinpoints his rage.
I think its good and should be reprinted wided.

I dont think its fair she brought his mothers business into it, this is her life and story to tell.

I disagree. I think if anyone is aware that a man is severely abusing his wife then they have the right - duty perhaps - to tell.

People not talking about it lets it go on.

I like her more and more.

But Nettle unless she has his Mums consent to discuss it, I think its extremely unfair.
Im sure we have all been through something in our life very personal to us, if someone else decided to take your situation and not only discuss it, but put it out to the world knowing it would be reprinted and talked about by all, I would be very unhappy.
She could have included her own experiences about his behaviour towards his Mum, they are hers, to bring up something which has either been confided in her directly by his Mum or discussed by others- if she does not have her consent is taking his Mums control of her situation away from her.

That was too long(!) but it was AWESOME.

She's brilliant. She nailed that fucker.

Wow, I thought it was really good.

I think it was brilliant too. It was an open letter because as she said, he wouldn't like anyone else knowing what he'd been up to - fair play to her. Tough shit for him - sounds like he more than asked for it.

Oak, but tell who, thats my point, to me all this has done is take even more of the Mums control away (if she did not consent to it being there).

A few months ago I was at work and could hear an argument, which then became progressively worse, then I heard the worst most chilling screams I had ever heard in my life.
I rung the police, and during the call I could hear massive thuds and the smashing of things.
After I called through the details, I went to the property and went into the property to help the lady this was absolutely my fight coming in, I did not think through the situation it was absolutely my natural instinct.

I absolutely agree that all abuse is every ones business, people should talk about it however I believe its up to the individual to make a choice if/when/how their story is told. This does not stop the conversations around it.

Also if the Mum is still in this relationship this could cause her to suffer further abuse from the husband.

I like it.

Kukesi - the mother's husband is dead. SOC is shaming her abusive ex to stop abusing his mother as well, I am sure she has thought about all the implications before sending this open letter.

Does she ever think things through though? She's always behaved quite erratically,

I hope this doesn't make things worse for the old lady.

Maybe the old lady is relieved that someone has seen her troubles and acknowledged them. Perhaps others will now offer to help her..

When I was in an abusive relationship I was too cowed to ask for help, or to leave. I prayed that someone would see through the facade and save me.