Some good to balance out the bad..

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It seems like there are lots of sad and unhappy posts at the moment so thought I would post something positive. We are going on holiday tomorrow.Today was manic, dog to kennels, washing, packing, clean the house etc. DH drove us to kennels 30 miles away then came home sorted the garden, hoovered the entire house and cooked dinner. To top it off poured me a large glass of wine and when I said I still haven't done my nails told me to go and get them done on holiday and treat myself. Just wanted to say they are not all bad

Awww

Can we clone him?

I know. He can be annoying sometimes but came up trumps today. Hes just emptying the dishwasher now!

Sometimes I feel so so angry and fed up with DH that it makes he scream but then he'll do something really lovely and I remember how lucky I am. He's not perfect but who is? I wish I could change aspects of him but I know that's impossible. He has so many wonderful qualities that I tell myself to focus on them rather than dwell on what aspects of him irritate me

Writer I know mines the same but when you read spme posts on here you realise you are moaning about nothing x

100% agree.

I don't come into this forum very often but when I do and read posts that highlight what utter bastards some men are it really upsets me.

My DH's biggest fault is his poor washing up skills followed by his inability to pick up after himself.

We're having a rough time of it at the moment and I have the horrible feeling that some of it is down to me reading this board and then letting my overly fertile imagination run wild. Thank you for the reminder that not all men are bastards.

DP isn't a bastard. He's just very busy, over stretched and leaned on...which makes me feel unimportant and sidelined. The issues with us are me wanting to spend more time with him whereas I guess a much bigger issue would be me wanting to spend less time with him!

You beat me to it OP

I was thinking of starting the same thread

My dh is a good man, lovely and I love him to bits, just as he loves me to bits. In fact, couldn't be happier.
But you read threads on here that make you realise this could so easily happen to us. Nobody is safe from their relationship ending up in the shit.
My dh fault is moaning, mainly about how many lights are left on in the house. Bless him, he calls it Blackpool illuminations. Says you can see our house from space. The kids do it to wind him up sometimes

Lovely posts

oh I hope you have a lovely holiday :)

Potato, I feel his pain. When I drive up to my house it looks like Blackpool and it pisses me off so so much. I give my teemage DC hell over it. Everytime it happens I sound like my old dad. No matter how much I go on and on about it they never listen and the house still looks like a Christmas tree. I am almost on the verge of letting it go because they NEVER EFFIN WELL LISTEN!

Some lovely cheerful posts here Have a great time OP.

I've been distant from DH recently as I've been struggling with trying to take a lower dose of ADs and had been too down to want to discuss it. He sat me down a month or so ago and asked me what was going on - poor darling thought I was having an affair
Now my meds have settled and we're back on track. Today we had sex again for the first time in ages, ADs have really taken that urge off me, and afterwards he held me close and told me how much he loved me. I know I'm lucky to have him, I've had my fair share of shitty relationships, but when he tells me he's lucky to have me I know how loved I am.

When I read some of the posts on here I know that finding a good man is a lottery. There are some really heartbreaking stories and I have to say that that could be anyone of us, you never really know who you're with until your in deep enough for them to show you that "other" side. I was in a couple of long term EA relationships before I met DH and he waited for me for ages before I committed to him because I wanted to be sure he wasn't going to be the same. But I could quite easily have stayed in those other relationships and be just as desperately unhappy and scared. He's a good man and I'm very proud to have him by my side.
Sorry if that's a bit gushy, but as I said, I've been on the receiving end of shit before and still bear the (emotional) scars.
But I do wish he'd stop snoring.

My bloke is lovely too. Although when I read posts on here I can easily convince myself he's a cheating arse. Years ago when I was first with him and I was working (he wasn't at the time) he made me sandwiches for work and I remember someone on here saying that was controlling behaviour, that I was clearly in an emotionally abusive relationship and I needed to leave him. I'd posted that I was angry that he'd got drunk and fallen asleep on the sofa downstairs.

Years later and one baby later it's all good.

I have a friend who posts on FB every single day that all men are C&nts. They're not! It drives me mad. The majority are lovely.

:) What lovely, normal, thoughtful posts Thanks, OP :)

Browser - "I am almost on the verge of letting it go" ... Sounds like a plan! Then you can chuckle evilly later on, when they're giving their own DC the same gyp about the lights.

Glad that others feel the same. Dh is not perfect (neither am I) but he is loyal, hardworking and kind. On the eve of our wedding he said " I promise I will never let you down and will work night and day to give you a good life". 24 years later promise intact -something in my eye- its so sad to read some of the stories here. But as previous posters have said it could be any one of us, I certainly try not to take him for granted. He is now going to have a nice couple of weeks chilling in a very warm location. [Smile]