Relation trouble

[Cooroo]

Actual relations. Not partners. My nephew has moved in with my frail elderly mother. He seems to be trying to take over her life. Now he has fallen out with a carer who is an old friend of my mothers. I am shaking with the stress. I can't sleep. It is so hard to type because my hands are shaking. Am I going mad?

What is your mother's view? Both about the cousin moving-in part and his behaviour with the carer. What led him to moving in with her and where was he living and with whom before that?

She is a little confused due to age. She says it is nice to have him as he is company. Which is fair enough. She has said how much she is looking forward to this carer returning after holiday. He moved back from another country where he had for into difficulties. It seemed like a good plan in short term. It would be fine if he was just being company and helping out but he keeps trying to override plans made by her children. One of whom has power of attorney and has been organising mums care well and happily for years. Sorry didn't mean to come on with this but shaking too much to sleep and don't want to disturb DP!