Dating sites? Help :)

[Dormouse14]

I don't have great self esteem, but I really would like to meet a partner.

I have joined match dot com in the past but I only had one date. Pof and okcupid just seem to bring 22 year olds with three plus children my way (I'm 33!) and more recently I joined the telegraph dating site but only had one message from a man down South somewhere - I'm in Lancashire. Oh and a couple of years ago I tried mysinglefriend but I only had one date from that as well.

So I wondered if anyone could maybe recommend a dating site ... perseverance and all that ... or give up

Smooch?

One of my friend's is married from someone she met on there and another is engaged.

Do you search yourself as well rather than wait for men to contact you?

Good luck

I haven't heard of smooch, how busy is it? :) I don't get the impression telegraph/single friend had many people - mind you, match did. It is a worry as I do sort of wonder if it's me!

Any site is busy depending on what you set your criteria as such as age perameters (sp) and distance.

A friend of mine also uses Badoo.

There's always Tinder too, I hear that is busy.

Telegraph and single friend really weren't - for me, at any rate, although I might not be quite what people are looking for.

I can't see me having much luck with tinder, isn't that the one where they just click yes or no on your face without any accompanying info?

I'm not sure about Tinder myself, just know it's really popular.

Have a look at Smooch and Badoo, I know people have had success. It does depend on what you are looking for and what you write of course. I think it's best not to write a long essay

I've honestly never heard of either - I don't know ... will have a look. Think tinder might be for the young uns!

I met my man from eHarmony.

I think I just got lucky because I don't think it's a great site, but it worked for me!

I think a lot of it is luck ... I just honestly don't know where I'm going wrong. I feel really lonely just now and like I'm never going to meet anybody ever silly I know!

I've used tinder - I'm ancient - and it was fine as a gentle intro to online dating. My best friend has been dating a tinder man for five mths so it does work. I'm on POF and have been dating someone for two months now. I went on dates with two other perfectly nice men. I don't get abusive messages or dodgy photos - but that might be my age. I don't reply to messages I don't like. I do try to be proactive so message men too rather than wait for them to contact me. I don't meet men in real life so this is the only way I can meet men.

How does tinder actually work though?

I've tried the free sites but there didn't seem many nice men!

Dormouse - join the dating thread on here - there are dozens of people going through the same thing, so you'll get lots of (probably conflicting) advice from people who've been doing online dating for a while, or new people just trying it.

Tinder is like a brutal game of 'snap'.

You click on cross (no thanks) or heart (yes) nxt to each photo. If you both click yes, it's a match.
It's linked to FB.

I met my partner on POF.

The OD game is simple. The bigger the site, the bigger the opportunity. The more messages you send, the more you will get back. The quality of the replies you get will be consistent with the quality of the questions you ask.

Some say that most profiles are inventions. I disagree. Everything they say, or don't say, tells you a bit about that person.

I do get messages on pof but they tend to be from quite unsuitable characters but then I'm bypassed by decent ones.

Yikes!