am i being stupid? be honest now...

[QuimWylde]

i am a regular mumsnetter, but have changed my name for the purpose of this thread.

ok, here's the situation. i post a lot on mumsnet, although i've only recently started using it (in the last few months) and i found out that my mum has been reading my posts. this came to a head today, when she asked me about some stuff that i had posted on another thread, as support for mothers of teenagers. it involved stuff i had done as a teenager (i'm 24 now!!!) and hadn't told her because as far as i'm concerned it's ancient history.

ok, i know what you're thinking - this is a public forum, anyone can read it, but i can't help but get the feeling she's checking up on me, and it annoys me because i'd like to have some privacy. also, i'm currently pregnant, and could do without the hassle.

we're not arguing about it, and we have a fantastic relationship (i think) but a lot of that is down to my ability to shrug and say 'whatever' and walk away. i'm probably being very stupid, but would appreciate some advice......

well not much you can do other than change your name and keep your posts as non-detailed as possible so people can't recognise you. you can ask her not to read, but you won't know whether she's not reading or just not telling you.

alternately, do what you're doing now and post personal stuff under a different name. tis the nature of the net i'm afraid.

At least you know - so it's not as if she's 'spying' on you without your knowledge.

Ahem - I would have thought there was enough info in your OP here to give you away, so choose another 'alias' for personal stuff, and include a few itmes of deliberate misinformation but that rean't relevant to your posts.

Glad you have such a good relationship with her

It would p* me off but thats the risk you take I suppose.

Tell her you dont post anymore and change name?

Do you use the same PC?

I would change your name if I were you, & change it to a name that she would not automatically link to you.
I have had to do this myself for similar reasons!

this is my normal name....i've just decided 'sod it' she can read what she wants, and if she sees something she doesn't like then she shouldn't've gone looking should she?! after all, if you look for trouble, you'll usually find it, eh?

and, to be fair, yes we do use the same computer, at her house, and i do read amusing posts out to her, so i can see why she would look on here. and she's a mum, so she's got every 'right' to look on mumsnet! it just seemed like she was specifically looking for my posts, to see what i was saying. bleargh....i'm just being stupid and hormonal!!