The very best diet I've discovered

[TommyandGina]

Is learning that your bf of 4 months is an alcoholic. I knew he had mh problems, anxiety mainly, which were controlled by medication. Since last Thursday when he had some bad news he has become more.and more insular and withdrawn, I let him stay with me as he was very low and I was very concerned about him. On Sunday night into Monday morning he drank the best part of a bottle of vodka and had had another 1 or 2 bottles since. During one of his sober (ish) moments he told me he's stopped taking his medication about a month ago. I suppose that explains his massive need for alcohol, all the shaking and sweating when he needs more. He lives alone and I can't bring myself just to kick him out so I've spoken to his family and they're coming to pick him up later. He won't want that I know as he has said to me previously that no-one has ever cared for him the way I do, I think it's for the best that he is with his family at the moment, there is only so much support I can give, I'm a single mum to a severely disabled 12 year old - my energy and resources are limited.

I feel very bad for contacting his family as I know he will feel I've let him down, hopefully in time he'll realise it's for the best.

In the meantime I've lost somewhere between 4 and 5lbs this week without even trying, I wouldn't recommend this diet though, for some reason it makes your eyes go all red and watery and your face all blotchy.

I'm feeling sad :(

Sorry to hear you're feeling low. You've done exactly the right thing, hand it over to his family and withdraw - you owe him nothing and you owe your son more than to waste your energy with this man. 4 months in you are free to cut your losses.

what do you want the outcome to be?

I'm not sure what I want the outcome to be, certainly for him to recover and get back on his proper medication. He's an amazing man when it's all under control. As for a future for us I really don't know, if this is going to be a regular patten then there is no relationship or future. I'll just have to watch and support him, with a little distance between us, to give me time to assess my feelings properly.

Tbh it's a short relationship. You've done the right thing - but u would back out and tell him to contact you when he is more sorted. A longer relationship I would be more helpful - but 4 months cut your losses.

unless you are desperate for man, avoid one who's an alcoholic.

it's a bit of a no-brainer.

why would you want that on your plate as well as a disabled child?
Raise the bar a bit for yourself.

I think you're all right aren't you. The wisdom of mn. That should be a book title.

Thanks pink, I'm certainly not desperate for a man. Have had 3 reasonably happy single years, tbh I didn't realise how much of a problem the alcohol was for him as he's been sober for over 18 months.