In law issues

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I don't know what to do anymore, i am so angry as about 3 months ago we asked sil to take us to the airport (flying with a 3 month old) as we couldnt really stretch to pay airport fees and our car isn't really big enough to take luggage plus two adults and baby boy. Well decided to get in touch with sil yesterday to check everyone ok for friday turns out oh well don't finish work till 12(middday) so can't really take you. You will just have to pay for airport parking fil then says well id rather you didn't take my car you will just have to manage. This might sound silly but we did ask them 3 months ago holiday has been booked for a while, it's actually meant to be our honeymoon as we got married last week. Sil had great fun with this one blaming dh parents for us getting married on our own. I just feel fed up as we always are second best but dh backs up his sister saying well she has got a lot on her mind ( she is pregnant decided she wanted a baby just like us used a guy to get pregnant dumped him and now going it along) this has caused arguments within the family as she is playing everyone off each other but im just fed up of this, am i being silly or not?

not surprised you are fed up, but with ILs like that you are deffo better off making your own way there.

Is there any public transport from where you live? Would suggest a taxi but no idea how that would work re baby car seat.

We are about 2 hours from the airport so not really an option as it would involve taxi train bus , it just seems this is another thing in the ever growing list of crap his family seem to throw our way but it annoys me when dh seems to think this is fine and acceptable.

I would be mightily pissed off if my SIL strung me along like that, even more so if she was my sister.

Maybe your dh is rising above it rather than get upset by it? Or is he just trying to be loyal to his family?

TBH, if the airport is a 2 hr journey from you it is a pretty big favour to ask of someone. And if your sil is pregnant a long journey like that may be very tiring for her right now - I agree she shouldn't let yopu down at the last minute though. We don't have the luxury of amy family nearby so always have to factor in the cost of airport parking when we go away. If you have a look on the internet you may find some parking outside the airport with transfers which will be a good bit cheaper.

I think you need to look at this more objectively. Asking someone 3 months in advance to make such a commitment is fairly unrealistic as plans do change. Asking someone to take time off work to drive you on what will amount to a 4-5 hour round trip is also unrealistic. Asking someone to do this because you cant afford the airport parking is somewhat unfair. I'm not sure what sort of car you have but unless it's a Smart car I dont see how 2 adults and a baby cannot fit into a standard hatchback. Sure enough there will be baby paraphenalia but are you not taking too much. There are many off-airport parking deals to be had so you should check them out. Your SIL sounds fairly unrealiable so probably wasnt a good idea to ask her in the first place.

It's bad of her not to have told you earlier that she couldn't take you to the airport, but I can sort of sympathise that she doesn't want to do a 4 hour round trip while pregnant after a shift at work. Is there a reasonably priced hotel near the airport? Perhaps someone in the family would be able to drop you off the night before? Or some hotels do a deal that you stay for the night before you fly and the price includes car-parking for the duration of your holiday.

Speaking as an over-packer myself, you don't really need as much as you think you do so perhaps you can reduce your luggage as well.

otoh, SIL shouldn't have let you think it would be ok if she knew it wasn't.