I feel absolutely awful. Been texting, messaging and speaking on the phone with a guy from years ago.
He and I had a one night stand after knowing each over as friends for over a year. After sleeping together we both felt in the wrong place emotionally and mentally (plus very young 18/19) to take things further and our friendship fizzled out after.
Fast-forward 10 years and after a failed relationship on both our sides (so I thought) I have 3DC and he has 1. I had just about given in on relationships and was happy with my lot. He friend requested me and then messaged me on FB. We got on very well, picked up where we left off friendship wise. My photos and status make it very clear I have 2DC with SN, he seemed to accept that as a non-issue.
We spoke about his DC all leading me to believe he was single although looking back he never actually said it. He spoke of never getting married again, finding long hours and looking after DC difficult. Seemed in a pattern of not speaking on certain days so I presumed those were his days organised to have DC. And in the gym a lot and late home on days he didn't speak of DC.
We got very flirty over the last month and organised a date in two weeks (my lack of childcare makes organising things difficult so this was soonest I could do) He offered to come round over the past month and meeting with DCs all of which I'm uncomfortable with so we stuck to the date idea.
I checked out his photos etc without knowing when he split etc it seemed to fit with his single story. Photos of DC with lots of extended family members but none (except newborn) of the three of them, one or two wedding ones around the wedding but nothing since.
He also seems always available to talk and message, I felt like I had contact with him most of the time.
So this morning I log onto FB and find his wife has tagged him in a video of their child, he is sat relaxed in the background in what I know to be 'his' house. She is clearly at home also, not just visiting.
I feel so stupid, from the message with the video is clear they are a family together. I clicked on her and can only see ones he is tagged in but all are of family life. Some of the ones I've seen previously are actually from her account. I feel so had, even her profile pic has his car in the background. The worst bit is in the video he has his phone, typing away, probably messaging me. It makes me feel sick.
I now can't see the video and he is messaging me as normal, he's obviously blocked me from seeing it and is hoping I didn't see it. I haven't replied and won't be. Just can't believe I fell for his lies, or actually they weren't even that he just didn't tell the truth.