After all this time I dont think i am cut out for this marriage lark .

[Marriageabitbuggered]

We have been together 18 yrs and I am pretty sure we loved each other and liked each other for a long time .

But now he just gets on my nerves a lot of the time . We are both good parents (modest ) but other than the kids we just don't seem to have a lot to talk about . He says he loves me but feels I am pushing him away , probably not far from the truth . But I am sure he wasn't this annoying before .

Bugger , I don't want to be a statistic , I knew when we married it was for life but ......
The thing is I cant imagine being with someone else either.

Not sure what I want to get out of posting but just needed to brain dump somewhere.

How long have you felt like this? Has anything happened to change your feelings?

A while , a yr or two I suppose but it does come and go a bit .

Nothing has happened but I am changing other things in my life so I suppose it has made me think about everything.

After 18 years I expect even the most saintly would get on our nerves. It all depends on whether there are any redeeming features to compensate for the annoying bits.

Do you think ? Maybe I am having a mid life crisis ?
Joined a gym , tick
Changing job , tick
Feeling stale with social life , tick
Husband an annoying sod ! Oh yes !

I think it happens to a lot of us. We're 25 years with a licence, 30 all in, and I am fairly certain we have felt like that about each other a few times.

I think we are saved by the fact that we know that's how we feel and discuss it and make changes, even the littlest changes can reduce friction and resentment.

Maybe if you use this place to think it through you could come to some clear idea of what it is you don't like / can't cope with and then talk it through with him. He is obviously aware and bothered by 'it' and that at least means you won't get stonewalled when you try to talk about it.

I hope you are right , I cant be arsed to start again . If I cant make it work with him I don't think I will bother again .

Will pick my moment and try and talk to him but to ge honest I am not sure what is pissing me off about him other than just him