Advice needed - huge argument with dh

[Tomsayer]

I don't have the best of relationships with dh at the moment, he often comes home in a bad mood as stressed at work and it is a bit like walking on eggshells around him. I have been made redundant in July and he often makes comments about the fact that I don't work and he has to bring money in. This is not true as we contribute equally to the household spend (I left my job with a good redundancy package), and I am starting my own business so not working full time, but working a few hours a day 3 days a week and looking after ds the east of the time.
When I got up this morning, dh was on the ipad looking at life insurance quotes for me. He has asked me to take life insurance (I previously had cover through work). Issue is I was treated for pnd and this means that life cover is now stupidly expensive, and i am not willing to pay the prices I have been quoted. He got aggressive immediately, saying that was another thing he had asked me to do and I was not taking seriously, that my priorities were wrong etc... My pregnancy hormones did shoot through the roof, and I shouted that I had had enough of it all and that I wanted him to leave.
He says there is no way he is leaving and if I'm not happy I know where the door is.
My thinking is no matter what the issue is, he should treat me with respect and there is no reason why I should feel bullied in my own home and that verbal abuse is unacceptable no matter what.
Totally lost as to what do to... If I want him to leave and he refuses then what are my options?

Sorry for the really long post I don't know who to talk to about this, would really appreciate Ny advice you may have

Hi op, I'm sorry that you are going through this at the moment.
You both sound stressed and unhappy but he shouldn't shout or use abusive language.
Better advice will be along soon but I didn't want to read and run.

If you seriously want him out then you have to go down the legal route.

If he is aggressive and abusive you can call the police at the time and have him removed temporarily but I don't think they can make him stay away without it being officially done if that makes sense.

There is no guarantee he will be made to leave though. You need proper legal advice to know where you stand and your options.

Bloody men, why do they think they can bully us? I would seek legal advice, some solicitors give an hour free. You need to know where you stand if things get worse.

It sounds like things are very stressful for you both. Are you pregnant again? Or are you referring to your pregnancy hormones from having your ds?

Not excusing your dh, but if he is stressed at work he probably feels under pressure about being the only person with a regular income - at the moment. He may be worried about your redundancy pay running out, your business not taking off as you hope. Is there some way that the two of you can talk about your worries and stresses in a calm way, and agree how you support each other through this - without either of you shouting or threatening to leave.

There was a time when dp and I had some financial things to sort out - a flat (his) which was rented out because we couldn't sell it, a huge mortgage on the house we were living in, etc. And at the time dp hadn't changed his previous will which left his money to his sister and his niece. I was extremely anxious about what might happen, even though the chance of him dying was extremely rare. Although he said he would change it I was really worried about being left with his share of the debts and not any of his assets. I know that the anxiety about money made me unreasonable and angry and frustrated, and I took it out on him. And every week that went past without anything being done felt like another week when he was blocking me.

Thanks all for listening. Yes I am pregnant again, and we really wanted this baby but I think it is making dh extremely anxious about money.
Venusandmars how did you work things out with your dp? Did solving the money issues help solve the problems in your relationship?
Ideally I would like to solve things with dh, and he says that he actually wants a loving relationship with me. But right now, it seems we can't have a normal conversation anymore and I feel completely shut down, so get out of the relationship seems like an easier option...

If this was the plot of a novel and you were being pressed into insuring your life the next thing to happen would be you'd meet a tragic end....ð???