What will SS do in this situation? Daughter aged 7.

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I decided to separate from my alcoholic husband. This is something I have been thinking about for some time but finally I got at the end of the rope and know I can't go on like this anymore.
Many things happened over the summer and I told him it is over.
On the 7th of September he finally got the message and agreed to separate but things have been very messy indeed and he is not taking it well.

So since the 7th he is acting awkwardly, unstable and unpleasant towards me. Saying things to me in front of my daughter, saying bad things to her about me, packing his staff and turning the house upside down but not moving or deciding what he is going to do, therefore I am unable to move out of the house too. As you can imagine, my daughter is really upset, worried, confused and she is not doing well at school, she can't concentrate for lessons or homework and she is having problems with friends in and out of the school. Her behaviour is getting really bad and she is now at times talking to me the way her dad does, in a aggressive abusive manner, saying things that she doesn't really mean and blaming me for the whole break up.

So I am thinking of getting emotional support/counselling for her. I can not go private, so is there a way I can get it on the NHS? What is the best way to do so, going to the GP first or contacting SS myself?
I have 2 police reports as I have called the police twice over the years due to my H's behaviour so I have a letter from SS offering support should I need.
I am going to see the GP anyway, for my anxiety due to my H's behaviour so should I take the opportunity to talk about DD or just ring SS myself?
My worry is that SS will take her away. But I can prove we are trying to work out a way to separate.
I am getting advice from shelter, women's aid, the council, CAB etc...
I have an appointment with a solicitor next week.

I am willing to go to temporary accommodation if needed. I can't rent privately at the moment.
I am willing to stay in the flat IF my H's decide to move...everything just been slow because he is not communicating properly and rationally with me, keeps changing his mind regarding his own housing situation and keeps asking for time to figure t all out. I also work in two jobs which makes very difficult to take time off and resolve everything all by myself at once.

Hi go me I was in a similar situation to your.. The only difference was I never got police involved when he was kicking off.. I do regret that now, yet at the time I just wanted to keep the peace also to my detriment I had not given up on it all.
I had a period of depression and he always used to say no judge with award custody to a crazy woman :-( what a charmer he was..

Anyway I had my feck it moment and knew it would be me that had to leave. It would have taken wild horses to drag him out.
I left I rent privately. It's not easy but it's also pure bliss at times :-) no more drunken rantings, or loud snoring, or hearing him slate me to our young daughter..

Now he sees daughter two nights a week. He's lives with his mum now so I guess she oversees things
It's not ideal but it will do for now.
As for you worrying about s.s getting involved well you are taking steps to end relationship hence protecting our daughter .. If it's all documented and he is still drinking well it should be contact centre visiting ?

Good luck but move fast. You may be entitled I housing benefit to rent privately you know :-) also do you have a joint mortgage ?

Why are you waiting for him to choose when to move out? Just tell him he has to go. Before you worry about SS intervention just deal with the immediate cause of the problem.

Give him advance warning and a deadline then physically remove his belongings yourself, change the locks and tell him that the police will be on standby and you will get a court injunction out on him if he tries to get into the flat.

Citizens Advice can help you move into rented accommodation, and if you feel unsafe then so can your local SureStart centre. They can help arrange a refuge place and tell you how to apply for a council house and benefits to cover rent.

You might have to organise him some accommodation.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Honestly, SS would rather keep your child with you and will support you. You have a letter offering support, so do use the contact info on that. You could also speak to Women's Aid. Getting help for your daughter is a good idea - ask your GP about a CAMHS referral for starters and try contacting Al-Anon.

You are choosing to prioritise your child's welfare and SS will be on your side.

Yes I am a member of Al-Anon.
We already rent privately joint tenancy agreement. I can't change the lockers/throw his stuff out etc.
I can rent privately with the help of benefits but I can't start the procedures right now with no savings etc.
But I am taking care of the housing situation and I can even help him no problem.

My only concern now is my daughter getting emotional support and I am just worried SS would take her away thinking I am not doing enough to protect her.

There is no physical abuse BTW.