How to prevent getting into the friend zone??

[RebelRobin]

I have a date! Yee Hah! However, I want to know how to stop getting into the 'friend zone' or worse 'FWB'. Lots of my friends and daughters friends seem to be just 'seeing somone' not 'going out with them' I'm taking this to mean, sleeping with but not really having a relationship with. That seems a waste of time to me.

I'm a bit rusty with dating, and really want a proper relationship. Can anyone advise me about what to do or what not to do.

Fwiw I would also interpret "seeing someone" as "dating but not (yet?) exclusive". There's a range there obviously, and as I am in my early 20s with a particular social circle I would assume there was a sexual relationship...but there isn't necessarily. And most but not all would go on to become exclusive relationships- or that would be the "end game" intention, anyway.

across it's what my mother taught me. But then she also told me I'd have to have sex when I didn't want to because all women do and it's better to just go along with it than make a fuss and make it awkward. Consequently, i have issues with saying no. Sorry, don't want to derail, just realised recently that I need to firm up some boundaries and so taking the opportunity to understand how other people see things.

Thanks arsenal

Folk Girl I'm so sorry your mother did such a head trip on you. She was wrong. Your body belongs to you and only you have the right to decide what you will and won't do with it. No one has the right to pressure you into anything.

Sorry to derail too, but didn't want you to think no one cared. I'm glad you're realizing that you are worthwhile and that you have the right to say no.