I can never get through to Womens Aid, is there an alternative?

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I really need some advice re my abusive ex-partner. I managed to get myself and our two children away from him, with the help of my parents. He knows the area we are in but not our address. This has allowed me to feel like I can breathe for the first time in months. He has returned to his home country (within the EU) but is planning on coming back at the end of this month.

He has contacted me via Facebook to tell me he wants to see our children when he's back (aged 3 and 6 months). He has previously threatened to kill me and my parents, to take the children away, and had moved my eldest son's passport without telling me (before I luckily came across it when tidying up). He also kicked me while I was pregnant with our second child.

I know I can't keep the children away from him forever but do I have to just hand them over to him when he's back? I genuinely don't feel the children will be safe around him. The messages he is sending me are angry and aggressive.

I have tried to contact Womens Aid on numerous occasions but always get the answer machine. Where else can I go for advice?

I thought of calling the non-emergency police line, is this the kind of thing they can help with?

I believe that you can email women's aid and they will email you back. Sounds like you are in a very scary situation. I really hope you get some advice very soon.

I would contact the police to make them aware of the history of threats and current messages. They should then be able ti give you the right contact details

Contact the police and a solicitor. Keep the messages he is sending you, youll need them for evidence. Also keep trying with womens aid.

I would speak to a solicitor. They usually do half an hour free.
Speak to the passport office about not allowing anyone else to apply for passports. Make sure you keep the passports under lock and key.

Is he on their birth certs?

What number for women's aid are you ringing OP?

Yes he is on the Birth Certificates. The number I am calling for WA is 0808 200 0247.

I would call 101 and ask for advice.

Record all the abusive messages as a start. Take pictures of FB screens if needed.

Then contact the police and report.

Its gone beyond WA alone - pl keep calling and try email - and you need this formally on record with the authorities.

You might also think about contacting social services. Their job is to protect your kids and given your situation they should be able to help.

Equally get legal advice. Especially if your former partner is not from the UK.

Sorry you are in this place

You could try 0808 800 0340. They might be able to help or give you a number to call for local services?

Good luck op. Also agree with ringing the police.

that's the right number OP.

or you can look here www.womensaid.org.uk/azrefuges.asp?section=00010001000800060002&itemTitle=A-Z+of+services for local services in your area

also the non-emergency number for the police (101) should know what services are in your area.

Wait till the recorded message finishes.

Then a person will come on the line, if there is one there. But do wait for the message to finish.

From memory, I'm pretty sure WA will call you back if you can't get through. You can leave a number and safe time to call.

Thank you everyone. I agree, I need the police involved now. I will call 101 tomorrow.