Any survival tips greatly appreciated

[IceRocket]

It's early days, I don't know if I'm going to give in.

I don't want to go into why, but I know dp and I are not working, not sure whether I still love him or not, or whether I'm scared of being alone, or even what I'm scared of.

He left last night so any survival tips to get through the first few days/weeks would be an amazing help to me.

Can't promise I'm going to stick it out, I hope I can, my head says we need to split, my heart just says I need him here. It's painful and I'll need some words of wisdom to tell me I'll get through this, as I do tend to follow my heart in a big way.

Thanks

Sorry it's over. When you say it's not working, did him leaving come as a shock or was it something you half expected? My best suggestion for getting through the first few days is to tell in some RL friends and family what's going on and ask for their help. This does a few things. First is that it makes the split more real and that's a good way to avoid sliding back into a bad relationship. Second, when you have a lot of doubts and fears, it's important to be with people who fully support you, love you and want the best for you. Some friends are better at practical stuff like making sure you eat properly and pay the gas bill. Embrace those friends.

Doing the right thing isn't always easy. Good luck

Thank you, I haven't told anyone in rl as I didn't want to use them & run if I bottle out.

I expressed my feelings last night which resulted in me feeling more alone, frustrated and helpless as he can't deal with anything emotion wise. Basically he puts it all on to me instead of admitting something is wrong. I ended up saying we should split it's not working etc. I then fell to pieces when he walked out. Which makes me want to say come back I can't take the pain but I know it's not working, something's got to change. It's easier to give in but I'm trying not to. So I'm trying to stay strong and follow my head.

Please tell people IRL. Commit to the split and it will become less easy to give in. Are there children involved?

Yes 2 primary school age, they're fine I just said he was at work. Thank you I will do that