Had a major argument with my mum.

[Imsuchamess]

I am manic and last night was out with a friend when she showed up at KFC screaming about how I should be at home with my kids (they were with dh) so in my aggressive state I sent her some angry texts. Saying perhaps there is a reason both her dc are self harmers. And how dare she judge me as a mother.

I feel pretty bad now but how can I apologise when it's how I feel?

If it's how you feel, maybe you shouldn't. Sometimes things need to be said before everyone can move forward.

Why not give yourself a few days to think about it all before making a decision about how to proceed with your mum?

I assume your children were safe with your husband, it's not like you had left them alone in the middle of a meth den. Why was she so angry?

People who show up anywhere 'screaming' (do you mean that literally?) shouldn't be surprised if they get a few offensive texts from time to time. I really wouldn't apologise. Focus on stabilising your mental state and let the dust settle.

Yeah she was literally screaming. Because I went out with a female friend Friday then went out with a different friend Who is grieveing for the loss of his mum Sunday night.

what business is it of hers?

your husband hasn't been complaining to her has he?

No my husband hasn't been complaining to her.

I don't think you're unreasonable to be annoyed with somebody who turns up somewhere to scream at you.

This part of your post causes me concern: "I am manic" - Are you in crisis at the moment? If so, please consider contacting your local MH team.