Am I being a really needy n*b?

[Tinytillytot]

DP has gone away for 7 days with work. Been together 2 years and never spent anytime apart before. Since he has been gone (5 days ago) he has called me twice; once for exactly 4 minutes while he was waiting for a taxi with his colleagues and then yesterday for less than 15 minutes. I feel really sad because I miss him and know I'd make the time to speak to him if I was away...just because I like to talk to him?

Am I being a loser? Is it really needy and gross? There have been a few texts but just "Morning, have a good day" and then "sleep well".

Let me have it ladies.

I think you are being a little needy, but as long as you recognise that, and don't sulk at him about it, then I think it's kind of understandable.

My partner is the same when he goes away on business to be honest. I'll normally get one or two texts a day, at least one of which will usually just say "Goodnight, sweet dreams! xxx".

It used to really upset me, especially before we lived together, as we were long distance anyway. Now we live together, and to be honest, I'm just used to it! He is terrible at conversation just for the sake of it, but he will come back and have loads to tell me about what happened during the trip and show me his pictures.

Last time he went away I had a film fest of loads of movies I know he would HATE but I quite wanted to see, coupled that with some nice wine, had a long bath, listening to lots of music...etc. It was good fun! It's always better when he comes home, but it is nice to have a little bit of selfish me time!

Awww OP you sound like me, we are all different, some more needy than others.

After 4 years together my OH spent the weekend away with his cousin at a concert in London (we live up north). It was our first night away from each other ever (sad I know) and even that was hard work!

I don't think we'd cope (either of us) a week away from each other.

You seem to be doing the right thing and not hounding him, so don't feel bad, just keep yourself busy and try and relax in some "me" time.

He's busy and doing something different, so the time is probably passing a little quicker for him!

I know its hard. I'm a need beggar too! we all have our faults haha.

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I'm surprised at some of these posts, I'd expect to speak to my partner every day if they were away, even if it was just a catch up and to say goodnight. I'd hope they'd want to talk to me too!

It'd be needy if you were constantly texting and stressing about lack of instant response.

FWIW a friend of mine whose DH works away almost all of the time, was advised by a counsellor to have daily contact ( the marriage was going pear shaped due to his being away so much...)
she said that men find it easy to compartmentalise and that 'checking in' with a wife daily was needed.

Well, I am not needy, am not particularly bothered by such stuff but DH works away a lot and calls me every day. And that's after 30 years of living 'together'.

We may only be on the phone for 10 seconds, our usual conversation goes like this: Hi, nothing much doing here, love you loads, talk to you tomorrow.

But it happens ever single day he is not here. About 6pm if he is on days, 8pm if he is nights, he says 'good morning' as though it is the best joke in the world

So you are not being needy, honest.

DH and I both travel with work a fair bit and just text at the start and end of the day usually, unless something unusual crops up. On longer trips DH emails, but not everyday and we'd rarely speak due to time differences and costs.

So I think you are a bit needy, but not unusual if my colleagues are anything to go by. One has set times he needs to call home at, which I find very odd.

Well, I must be 'needy', too, whatever that is.

I'd expect a text at least once a day, telling me he loves me, as would he.

We did the LDR for 18 months before I immigrated so the distance doesn't bother me so much as the lack of "thinking" about me. If I get an e-mail or text I know he's thinking of me. Doesn't have to be much, just "Love you" is fine.