Friend's outburst - now things are awkward

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The other night I went on on a night out with a few friends and my fiance. We'd had a fair bit to drink and all came back to our house for a final drink and some snacks.

One friend seemed to be spoiling for a fight and kept criticising my fiance and me, how we plan to run our marriage etc. It was partly in the spirit of general debate, but some of the comments were a bit bitchy. The friend then claimed she didn't really mean any of it, that the comments were just intended to start a debate. TBH it was a bit confusing and seemed like she had realised she'd gone to far and was trying to cover it up. She then went on another rant, and basically admitted that she felt very insecure and jealous of us or our relationship (wasn't entirely clear which or why), particularly about the fact that we have higher earning jobs. This has NEVER been an issue before, we never discuss money and there is very little noticeable difference in our lifestyles so I'm a bit confused.

She texted the next day apologising for being drunk and obnoxious but now it feels like there is an atmosphere between us. I feel awkward that she feels insecure/jealous as in my mind she has no need to at all. Plus I can't write off in my mind some of the more barbed comments as they were far too specific and honest to be made up 'for the sake of debate'...

How do I sort this? TBH I just want to carry on as before and put it to the back of my mind but no idea how to go about this.

Some people are wankers when they are pissed. If it's a one off I'd forget about it and try to move on.

It depends how good a friend she is/was and her behaviour generally. If she has acted like this before then I would not bother with her as she is resentful. However if it was a one off it could be just drunken obnoxiousness as she acknowledged. It's good that she apologised.

You are being very generous with her. She didn't make those things up, she clearly felt them. Sorry

Are you very long-standing friends? If so, possibly worth patching up. If not... well, you saw the real her and no need to invest further.

I had a storming row with a friend years ago. Very drunk. Everyone remorseful in the morning but it did for us. She meant what she said and in truth so did I.

It's more the resulting awkwardness now that I want to fix. She still seems to be bearing some kind of grudge but maybe she's just embarrassed?

I think a sober discussion about what she said and honesty on both sides will probably help ease the awkwardness.

it sounds like she was the one in the wrong. The question to ask yourself is why you feel the need to tackle the awkwardness. She should be the one doing the running..

I think she was wrong to say it, but she was pissed and she does get quite out of character when pissed. TBH this isn't the first time apparently genuine negative feelings have come out when she's been drunk (which isn't very often).

I'm just wondering if I have somehow been at fault to make her feel like this.

Not your fault.
In vino veritas, eh?

You must value your friendship with her to want to tackle the awkwardness, and thats ok. She apologised, and rightly so, what did you reply with? I would have used that as an opportunity to address how you feel. I think a chat with her will help to clear the air.

Also, NOT your fault. You are not responsible for that.

I just said 'don't worry about it' or something like that. I also have a semi-professional relationship with her and we often socialise in a group with others so it's not really possible to just cut contact, although I don't want to do that anyway.

I'm sure that although there will be a grain of truth in whatever she said that she's gone further than she even feels in a drunken state. She's a bit jealous of you guys and she had a good old rant. I think you just cool things a little for a while. Not cutting contact just a few weeks off socialising. Give it chance to blow over. You clearly want to be friends with her. Sounds like she's having a tough time and you got the brunt of it. You sound like good friends.