Is doing my head in! Took me to court to stop me moving away for my job (or he was saying dd should live with him), court found in my favour overwhelmingly that dd should live with me and that co parenting was not working, him and his wife essentially tried to undermine my role as her mother (they wanted me out of the picture, told me I couldn't offer dd a family environment as I was single at the time) & this was over 4 years ago
However he is rude and passive aggressive in spite of paying ZERO maintenance and the fact I pay for her to go and visit him regularly (£150 per month it costs me)
In court we agreed a "flexible" written arrangement whereby she would spend all half terms with him all of Easter and half of Christmas and summer on top of two visiting weekends per term.
Her (private) school have said that as a one off half term will be two weeks and he is acting like he is entitled to both weeks. We get little holiday time with dd so I have explained that the agreement was on the basis that half term is typically a week long, and that we would like to spend one of the weeks with dd but we will be flexible and he can choose which.
But I am dreading what his response will be probably to mess me around not confirm anything or change things and so screw up our plans, why did I try to be flexible and nice to someone that has zero respect for me?!! Aibu?
I also know I need to get him to pay his way and contribute maintenance but dreading this too as he will stop what little cooperation there has been and probably threaten legal action although neither of us can afford to go back to court
I wish I had not been so overly generous in court. Everyone I speak to is shocked he doesn't pay maintenance and he doesn't expect to. His view is that I moved away so I should pay for her to visit him which I do, but he contributes nothing financially to her except to pay for some of the travel (about 10% of the total cost).