I left stbx over a year ago,I am living with family and have dcs. Met someone six months ago and he is everything stbx wasn't. He doesn't come to where we live (not my home etc) and I don't stay with him because of dcs,we only see each other when dcs are with their dad(stbx)although we have taken dcs out a few times. Up til this last couple weeks I was quite happy but my circumstances are going to change(again) in next few months and I am looking at the relationship differently/realistically. I am going back to college to retrain and have found myself a small part time job, he is unemployed and not very pro-active in looking for work. He spends his money as soon as he gets it(despite mentioning he would like to get a car and go on holiday) but I save as much as I can. When dcs and I eventually move I have been given the impression he thinks he can come over whenever he likes and stay over - something I am not comfortable with now and I don't think dcs will be either. I am concerned I will end up with someone more or less living in our home(I don't want to live with him)and not contributing
am I right to be concerned about these things or am I worrying about nothing? I am not very good at standing up for myself,when I have mentioned concerns I almost feel he dismisses them because it's not what he wants to hear. These things are how it comes across to me, I might be wrong though. Any advice appreciated,not sure what to do, if anything