Dating disaster

[Ships99]

I've recently met a nice bloke who I find incredibly attractive. We have been chatting for a month and met three times. He lives 40 miles away and everytime we meet, I have driven to see him.
He is divorced. His ex has recently stopped him seeing his kids (although he has a court order saying he can see them).
He wants a relationship and to date, but he said he has no money to visit me and is struggling with bills and maintenance. The last time we attended to meet, he had to cancel as he was "sorting his finances" and later he said he had done all his paperwork and rand to ask "did I want to come over". I said I didn't want to go to his again, and asked him to come to mine.... But he had been drinking at home.
So.... Looks like this new man isn't going to go anywhere.... I'm coming second to a bottle of spirits!
So.... I've deleted my pof profile. I've met a few off pof but it's truly grim.
Is match.com any better?
I'm seeking a decent bloke of 6ft4 or above. Am I asking too much?!? Lol

And I never specified a height (just said my own) or said anything about my love of beards.
But they found me. Maybe I just have a face that says "tall bearded men only thanks"

Blimey. I'm 5'3. My exbf is 5'6. I quite liked the fact we were a similar height!

In fact all but one of the men I met/dated was under 5'8. I realised I rather like a shorter man.

"I realised I rather like a shorter man."

There's more chance he'll be in proportion too; none of this, '28 inch waist with a size 17 shoe' business.

Actually, MadeMan You've hit the nail on the head, there. I've been trying to work out what it was that made him so perfect for me physically. And it was a combination of him being perfectly in proportion, not getting a crick in the neck when I kissed him and not feeling like I was being looked down on/talked down to all the time.

I think 5'6 - 5'9 would be my preferred height range now. Which, given you all want someone tall, leaves plenty of men for me!

Pity I'm not looking right now...

When you are coming second to someone's 'paperwork,' you know it's time to call it a day.

My last boyf was 6'5".

I was expecting some kind of size correlation.

Sadly not.

Best to focus on the person not the details of height etc, most other things can be worked out/put up with if the core person is alright.

Actually yes you are asking for too much with just height.

You are blocking out all the guys out there who may be a perfect match on so many different levels, while only looking to date a small percentage of very tall men, who may all end up being a waste of time.

As long as he isn't 5ft1 I wouldn't worry too much if you can't wear your favorite heels all the time!