Is this normal?

[superstarheartbreaker]

To give up on relationships as they generally make me miserable? I only seem to attract a users and never, ever the men I truly desire.
I also get these scenarios where someone hints that they likes me, I really, really like them back and we flirt only for me to discover that they have a partner.

It's sad but I just feel despondent and cynical as though nice relationships don't happen to me. I would have loved to have got married but I've given up and I am happy on my own...although that's largely as I have no choice.

Abusers that should read.

It's normal to feel like that yes. It takes time to find the right person and I think it really is true when people say stop looking and you will find it!

Can I ask how old you are? Where have you been meeting men?

Sometimes we subconsciously are attracted to a type. Take time out for you, plan something's that are special for you like a meal out with friends or a little holiday.
Have you thought about councelling. It could help you get your head in a better place and more confident. It will make such a difference as your thoughts about yourself and relationships are negative.
You deserve to be happy whether it's in a relationship or not.

That's very true Heyho! There's an old saying "Like attracts Like!"

Im 36. Been meeting men online sunce dd but before un pubs/ clubs. Tbh im exhausted by it all. Of course im happy to a point but regular loving would be fullfilling. In my experience " love" equates to being treated badly.

This is not meant unkindly, I promise, because I really enjoy reading your posts.
But...you post a LOT about relationships - wanting one, swearing off them, etc. it seems like finding a man occupies a hell of a lot of your headspace.
IME, it comes across incredibly obviously when someone's desperately after a relationship.

Is there some part of your life you can develop JUST for you, without finding a man being a priority?

Feel free to write me off as a bitch or a bitter singleton!

Those are rubbish places to meet nice men. I'm not surprised you have had bad luck.

Hobbies, sport, work, classes, through friends of friends are good ways. Go out looking for fun that has nothing to do with sex or love, you are more likely to find a like-minded person you bond with.

Its just the desire for sex and physical closeness that drives me back to men. Im actually psychologically better off without them but sooner or later my desire for a good old shag kicks in.
I posted yesterday about casual sex but not sure I can indulge without getting attached.

Well, can't lecture on that front. I'm completely with you there. I'm happily single but have admittedly had a nice bloke for the casual stuff.

We decided to end it recently because he's going through a difficult divorce, but after three weeks or so it's back on. I did get too attached at the start but I think the trick is to be quite practical and not let your heart get away from you. I remind myself that we would never work in a relationship and he's actually not what I'd want in a partner, but sexually we click perfectly.

And it beats awful drunken one nighters hands down.