thanx. well, the story is that dh's real fathers parents were aghast at the situation when they fond out he had got a girl pregnant. They didn't want him tied down, wanted him to go to uni, so they paid the parents of dh's mum a sum of money to keep him out of it all
dh asked his mum a few years ago where his dad lived and she gave him a rough idea.
we managed to get the phone number a couple of years ago, but when he phoned, his father was obviously a bit shocked, but didn't sound very pleased. dh left his number but he never phoned.
anyway, after some checking around we find out the address, which isn't very far from where dh works and tonight on his way home he has plucked up courage to knock on the door!
strange thing is dh's father lives with his mother and for some reason didn't let dh in the house and said that he would meet with him and talk but it had to be away from the house.
he also said he wasn't 100% sure he was his father and said he couldn't really see anything of himself in dh. he said dh was just another man to him. He said they could tell each other what they had done with their lives but would their be any point (again, a bit odd i think)
so, dh is a little confused but at least he has done it after all this time!