How To Leave My Fiance

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I've found out today that my fiance has been arranging encounters on Craiglist. We have a 2 year old and I need to get as much as possible in place before I leave him so that her life isn't disrupted too heavily.

Can anyone give me a step by step list of things to arrange? I'm a full time student and don't have a job as he made it very awkward for me to get one.

I can't decide whether to speak to him now as it turns out he's been trying to arrange stuff for when I'm out. Don't think I can actually wait any longer, the others were a few months ago. I actually feel a lot worse. :(

Do not speak to him! Why put yourself through even more crap than you are now?

What would I do? Give formal written notice on the rented property you are in now. One person on a joint-tenancy gives notice for both parties.

Pack. Leave and go to stay with family until you are sorted for your own accommodation. This isn't necessarily going to be easy with no earned income. Landlords, quite understandably, are wary of letting to those solely reliant on benefits.

The important part is to get the fuck out of there asap

Why speak with him? Your mind is made up to go and he will then embark on telling you a pack of lies, minimising etc. creating drams you can do with out. Remember he has form!!

You don't owe him anything after the way he has behaved. Continue to prioritise you and your child.

Good idea above to give the notice on the flat - he can renew the lease in his name if he wants to stay there. that is his business.

To be honest, if he's arranging to meet people right now, I would pick up the child and a bag of things and go straight to my mum's house. I couldn't be in the same house as someone who was doing that.