Casual sex in dating break.

[superstarheartbreaker]

I've decided to give dating a miss for the time being as I can't be arsed. I still have needs though and I'm starting to change my attitude about casual sex.
I've been on tinder and I'm talking to someone about a hook up. He's going travelling and I want to date seriously again in the new year so is casual sex a good thing on a relationship break. How do I keep it casual and stop it from becoming something more? I'm a typical girl but I've noticed as I get older I am less bothered by one night stands and enjoy them whereas in the past I was hurt by them.

I've tried hard to explain I'm not judging just curious- so it's not nice to call marrieds 'smug'.

I suspect that, going by my friends' marriages that most singletons have more sex than married couples!

I didn't say that people who are not in long term relationships should not have sex.
I did say that for me, sex without any emotional attachment - no matter how low key - would not work or be something I'd seek out.

Quite, quite a different scenario to getting rid of a double bed on divorce.

As long as it's the right thing for you. Some people are super keen on one night stands, some people don't like them. As long as you're safe about it and doing it for the right reasons (you just want sex rather than you hope it will turn into something else) then you should be fine!

Maybe also have a think about your boundaries and have them firmly in your mind. Some guys seem to feel comfortable asking strangers for things they may not ask partners for. In my decent string of one night stands, I was surprised by the number of guys who just chucked out "So how's about anal?" I also read an article discussing the idea that people use one night stands to play out fantasies or be more experimental, as it was easier to be open with someone you may never see again.

As long you're doing it for you and what you want.

I find it slightly odd that you say you want a break from dating for a few months, but you intend to fill the break by starting a new relationship (albeit short term). But regardless of how you choose to phrase it, if it makes you both happy then I hope you enjoy yourselves.

But dating is very different from casual sex. You might go out with several men but none of them might boyfriend or fuck buddy material. If one of them you like, you will probably take tine to get to know him. It's all very labour intensive, tine consuming and costly! Fuck buddy isn't any if those things.

One night stands aren't my thing, but if you are intrigued, or want to go ahead with it, then go for it.

Just please be careful about your safety - not just with regards to STI's, but on a more basic level. I don't want to be patronising, but just things like actually meeting the person in public first with no expectations of sex that night is a good idea.

Someone might seem normal on apps, but then set off major weirdo alarms when you meet them in person. It's good to test the waters before feeling like you're in a situation that is difficult to extricate yourself from.