parallel lives/affairs

[chocolatemummy]

I know somebody who is married with a young child and has also been seeing/in contact with somebody else pretty much throughout the whole time. they met when her husband walked out on her (before they were married) and kind of never really let eachother go........both have been in a marriage/relationship for years now (like living parallel lives)

and......

what do you think about it, they are in love with eachother and talk almost daily althouogh don't see eachother that much because its just too difficult but also in successful marriages. I have since found out about a few people who are in similar situations and have been for years..... can this work? is it right/wrong if they met at the beginning and maybe just chose the wrong one or maybe not?????

is this you?

nope

its patently wrong

ethically and morally wrong

demonstrates lack of respect and personal honour

and there's a child involved

anything else you'd like my opinion on?

hmm, yes I think along the same lines but very difficult to see one you care about doing this and just not knowing how to stop, eitherway husband or other is going to get heart broken as been together same amount on time almost- like 2 husbands ?

I just can't believe how common this type of stuff is, since finding out about this i have chatted to people and found out about others, som going on for as long as 10 years

I dropped the only 'friend' I had who relished talking to me about her 'affair'

it sickens me

get out of the relationship you're in first you selfish sods

she doesn't talk about it much, its just normal to her because its been going on so long.
I don't know how she does it, and for so long. Its kind of like living out Sliding Doors for real.

I have a few friends in this sort of situation

Even some who have dinner parties with each other

It's jolly odd

I think people just compartmentalise it, and it becomes normal for them

I think this whole wife swapping thing is VERY odd, thats shocks the hell out of me but that seems to be very real too, all the stuff about society changing and affecting children and the young generation emotionally is freaking me out, yet marriage is suposed to be on the up!