cant stand fil & he is sat in my dinng room stuffing his face. i want to shout at him to get the f out of my house.

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But I am smiling sweetly at the kids.
He/they would never know how much I detest that man.

Get out get out get OUT!

And now, chill...........

I'm a bloody good actress me.

Can't really comment without knowing why you hate him so much.

What has he done?

What has he done to make you feel the way you do?

Have you discussed this with your dp?

The man is a self centred, selfish arse who made mils life a complete misery until the day she died. He ran up thousands of pounds of debt, didn't give a shit that it plunged them into poverty.
Spent thousands of pounds on shit for himself, still to this day has no conscience.
He does not give a shite about anyone but himself.

I bet he arrived empty handed today too!

How does your dh feel about him?

Yes!
He turned up for a weekend of camping with us with a sleeping bag & 2 cans of coke for himself. That was it, for the whole weekend.
Never put his hand in his pocket at all, all weekend.
We had to cater for him.

Dh knows how I feel. Bless him, he just gets on with stuff.

Stop paying for him, he'd have to put his hands in his pocket then

This is one man I would not willingly feed and water. Just stop the parasite from visiting at mealtimes. Cup of tea if it has to be then out.

Cup of tea if it has to be then out.

Nasty Tesco Value tea at that..

Why do the two of you allow yourselves to be so pushed over by this person?. You both know all too well what he's like; what sort of guest anyway turns up with 2 coca cola tins and a sleeping bag. And you let him in!. Your children will know that you both hate this individual; catering to him as you have done just sends them mixed messages.

DH's own inertia (likely mixed in with his own lot of fear, obligation and guilt towards his dad) here as well with regards to his father is simply also hurting his own family. Toxic family members should never be at all tolerated.

Where are your boundaries here; they seem to be set far too low currently with regards to him. You allow him to do this to you and he acts like this as well because he can. His late wife for her own reasons chose to remain with this individual.

You would not tolerate any of this from a friend, his dad is no different.

Ha! Believe me, there is no pushing around by anyone. He knows I can't stand him. I have very little tolerance of him.

The camping weekend did not involve me, it was dh & Our kids. I would have told him had I been there.

To prevent full scale warfare, I avoid him.
Love the tesco cheap t bags idea, love that, thanks!