Petrified

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DH and I are living apart and has not made contact for two weeks. We have a DC. I am scared that he will get married (I'm sure his family are in the process of finding him a new wife) then will say he wants DC to live there as if is a family unit. Can that happen?

I thought he had already left you?

Yes that's true but no contact so don't know what he's doing

He has left you and has no contact with you, love. It doesn't matter what he's doing. The relationship is over and you need to start accepting that and making proper legal moves to protect yourself and DC.

It sounds like you're holding out hope somehow that things are going to change but really, do you think you are going to reap any benefit from pretending any longer? The man is horrible and it's absolutely crystal clear that he is not father or partner material. Even if he did come back begging, you would be spitting in your DC's face to take him back after all this!

the longer you put off making it official, the longer he can threaten to "take you to court" (as if that would mean anything, ffs! you're the child's primary carer and he's a mummy's boy who clearly wants nothing to do with either of you in any case) and the longer you will be posting here wringing your hands about nothing. I mean that kindly - you honestly are wringing your hands about nothing.

he will get some time with her if he wants it, which he will probably refuse or only use sporadically, and you'll get on with your life, and it will be fine. He can marry the Queen and still not snatch your DD and pretend you're not in the picture. It simply doesn't work like that and by not taking legal advice and getting a proper handle on your rights, you're giving him faaaaaar too much of your headspace.

my comment re mummy's boy is based on your previous, numerous, threads in which you have been urged to get legal advice. for some reason you appear to have refused to do that? i just want to point out that you are going to stay petrified and confused etc. until you talk to a solicitor. your choice.

if you prefer to be petrified, by all means, keep posting about this on internet message boards and freaking out about it in the privacy of your home.

Thank you for helping me clear my head ... I know that you are right