Marriage advice from Michelle Duggar

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Read "Why a wife owes her husband sex" in particular

www.cafemom.com/articles/entertainment/170276/michelle_duggar_shares_the_secret

Its kind of hard to know where to start with this to be honest. Apart from wanting to shake her! Scroll past the ads, it is all on one page.

I find it difficult to understand how attitudes like this can see exist in the year 2014.

Especially since she clearly has an internet connection, so it's not like she is living in the middle of bumblefuck which is still 100 years behind the rest of the developed world.

I do agree with soontobesix as long as it comes from both sides. If both husband and wife have an attitude of putting each other first then the mutual love and respect that others mentioned is there. So some nights it might be 'I'm tired, but we haven't connected physically for a while so I'll put you first', and other nights it might be 'I know you're tired so why don't you just have an early night'. As long as there is a balance. It's when it becomes one sided from either side that things start to get problematic..

""Why a wife owes her husband sex""
I wonder if the reverse would be true...

Lweji definitely the reverse should be true. The points I raised go both ways.

Nobody owes anyone else sex. you should have sex if you want to have sex, if you don't want it you shouldn't be made to have sex or feel it's your duty. Why would you want to have sex with someone who was only doing it because they felt it was their duty? That would turn me right off (dh too!).

I can see where she's coming from. Not in the situation she's described with a new baby and all. And it's not a need every time he's horny. But you definitely have to make an effort and give him a chance to woo you.

There is a difference between being wooed (?) or expected to just go along with it.

Eurgghhh, just eurrrrghhh! What a horrible, horrible blog. The woman thinks she's sexually open and out there and she's just ..... I can't even begin to think what the word might be.

The longest me and DH have gone without sex is nearly 18 months because I was going through IVF and had a rough pregnancy. There was understanding, communication and patience.

Sex is an important part of a relationship, but not everything. If you are friends first it is possible to survive a sexual drought.

Interesting that when it was common knowledge that women were the overly sexual ones, it meant women were horribly unstable temptresses that couldn't be trusted or handle men's work and all that, but none of that really transferred to men in the last 100 years since it's transitioned to 'everyone knows men have higher sexual drives'. Gender essentialism that that article is full of is only and very damaging. I find both mine and my partners goes up and down due to various things and neither of us should would be able to enjoy anything if the other person just agreed because we said so...

The rubber stamp was put on some of these points today. I walked into Tesco (in our local town centre one you have to walk past the newsstand as its near the main door) and i caught sight of a womens mag called Essentials. "Is sex REALLY that important" screamed a byline on the front cover. (i really dont think you would see a byline like this on the front of a mens mag) I flicked through and it was the usual sexist crap. The writers friend actually told her if she didnt "put out" her husband could go elsewhere.

As i was putting it down i noticed something on the back pages. Their problem page is a mother and daughter team Someone wrote in about a friend who is 4 stone overweight and thats the reason the friend cant get a man.

The mother and daughter team ( i think their names are Trisha and Elise I didnt buy the mag I refuse to) actually used the word fatso in their answer!!

I was/am absolutely disgusted. What i saw in Essentials today was vile.

And way way worse than anything ive ever seen in Grazia.