Does this cross the line?

[Summerbreezer]

I know there is no definitive answer to this, but I would be interested to know your thoughts.

There is a man in my life who I see regularly on a one to one basis (in a professional capacity). He is a long term relationship, I am single.

Over time, we have got to know each other well (inevitable when you spend time together one on one I suppose). We talk, we laugh. We tease each other.

I know he finds me physically attractive. (He has said so). I feel the same way. (I have not said so).

Despite that - there is nothing is said that I wouldn't want his girlfriend to hear. It is all appropriate and above board. It is just that there is undeniably a lot of chemistry there.

I know that we all go through life sometimes being attracted to other people - it doesn't mean we will act upon it.

I also know that neither of us would take it any further. There is too much to lose and I am definitely not OW material. I won't be any man's second choice.

We have just arranged to see each other outside the professional capacity. It is a mutual hobby. It makes perfect sense that we should do this together.

Yet somehow I feel I have crossed a line. Have I?

You can put a stop to any chemistry by not seeing him outside work " gosh no, it just would be weird, you have a dp and should be spending time with them" and if he starts all the " just friends" stuff just smile and say its nit him its you:) and you don't want to feel uncomfortable at work! And then back to work talk!

And get v busy outside work yourself. And is there an end to the 1:1 stuff? If not, its an even bigger reason not to do it.

Keep conversation light and don't overshare with your life and plans. Do that with your outside friends. I should imagine people have noticed anyway, at work and are watching with interest:)

Summer, we're always telling people on here to listen to their instincts. You listened to yours, and they said "I feel I'm crossing a line." Excellent. Your instincts have a valid moral compass, a good eye for an unsafe bet, and a direct line to your conscious thoughts. See, you're not only slim, shapely & vivacious, but you're emotionally smart!
Have a slice of or, given the diet, a lovely fresh papaya or something

It's perfectly all right to have a crush on a co-worker. Sparkles up your day and all that. It's also quite normal to go a bit overboard on the feeling attractive after you've achieved some desired goal for your appearance. Enjoy it - you'll calm down in a few months, but nobody should begrudge you a degree of extra flirtiness for now.

If you need to damp your ardour for this chap, you can do all the break-up things like visualising with a bad case of the craps and a terrible hangover, or scratching his arse & sniffing it or any of the many other things people do that make us barf. It'll probably be enough, though, to re-label this feeling as "Harmless Crush" and wait for it to wear off.

Your eyes are looking brighter, I'll bet