Divorce through

[StrongerSingle]

I haven't been here for ages but lots of lovely people here helped me when I was going through my darkest days, just after finding out about my exh's affair. Thank you to them :)

Today I received the notice that we are finally divorced. It's taken 5 years. Probably could have done it quicker but neither of us was rushing into another relationship, and the DC were paramount in any decisions taken so we took things very slowly.

It is weird when it finally happens. A truly bittersweet moment. Sad that it's over. Happy that it's over. Sad that we didn't make it work. Funnily enough, we are good friends and everything has been agreed amicably. I never wanted my DC to have to endure an awful atmosphere and to witness arguments.

I just text Exh to ask if he realised we were divorced. He said yes, he knew and it was a sad day for him. He also said that I was the best wife ever and a fantastic Mum to the best DC ever ... which obviously made me cry :(

Just wanted to tell someone.

Hi Strongersingle
I think the reason no one has commented is that you've summed it up perfectly yourself:
a truly bittersweet moment

Sending you hugs and to mark the start of the new chapter in your life.

So choked up at your post, I am going through it myself but sadly it is far from amicable.

I wish you and your DC nothing but happiness in the future

Well done for having such an amicable split. That doesn't make it any less sad so hope you can pick yourself back up soon x x x

Ah, thank you all :)

Don't worry. I wasn't upset with the lack of response. I just wanted to tell someone and felt better just writing that here. I also wasn't looking for sympathy. I just never understood that "bittersweet" saying till now. It's a sad but inevitable moment but I'm happy now and looking to the future.

And handfullofcottonbuds, I truly hope you find peace and happiness. I remember vividly coming here at the beginning of this saga and someone told me to buckle up because it would be a roller coaster .. and god were they right. I feel so bad for people that are at the beginning of that roller coaster because it is an awful time.

But at least we have MN for support when it is needed :) x