Would breathing space help or merely delay?

[Isthisnameinuse]

Long time MNetter, but have name changed.

Basically DH has had enough of me and the children; he wants out. It has been rocky for a year or so but despite me recently going all out to try and make things better, he clearly isn't satisfied.

I wondered about suggesting some breathing space, he goes away for a couple of weeks but would I merely be prolonging the agony? He won't talk any further tonight.

And you actually WANT someone who openly admits he's "had enough" of you and the children?! I don't know about you but my self esteem would be in tatters.

Those weren't his words exactly but that was the general implication. He has found it very difficult to handle the children recently- they are just normal children who do normal childish things, I hasten to add! He is actually often a really good dad, but recently, has become impatient and intolerant.

Oh, and while I see your point, I personally don't just want to throw away a 10 year relationship on the basis of a crap year.

Sadly, I don't think you're in a position to suggest anything from the sound of it. If he's decided it's over and he's off then it may be you'll get more respect from him to call his bluff and offer to help him pack than if you make concessions and keep tripping over yourself to be a better wife...

Being cynical, I'd suggest you cherchez la femme

I would say his head has been turned too

However, I wouldn't have a man in my house that "had had enough of me and the kids"

Send him on his way. Give him the single life he is clearly hankering after. A couple of weekends in his skivvies eating beaks from a can should sort him. or, he will go to OW/ start shagging around like a bunny. But either way, you would have your answer.

*beans

Well, he gets to decide if he's had enough of you - harsh, but we all have that choice.
But my god to say that about his kids? No. You don't get a choice with kids, that's the deal. Anyone who thinks that isn't worth having.

I don't see that his selfishness should be rewarded with a nice break, either.
If he genuinely needs a break, then he can take a weekend off or something - but then he does the same for you. Both recharge, then work on the issue.
The fact he won't talk to you, and it's all quite sudden - I'm another one thinking he is interested in someone else.

There's no affair, that's a definite.

I actually think he might be depressed, he has no interest in anyone or anything.

Maybe the grass is greener on the childfree side of the fence. I guess only he can make that decision then.