sick child and bored boyfriend

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I am lurking on MN as I keep my child company as he is sick with a fluey cold and in a bed on the sofa. Boyfriend is currently staying with us for a few days and does not have his car here. He is all grumpy and has taken himself off to my bedroom because he is 'bored'. I have suggested a walk, a board game etc. I even offered to let him mow my lawn :) . Am I right to feel a bit annoyed that he does not get that when you have a sick child you can't do much? He is expressing frustration about 'another wasted day' etc. I would suggest he goes home but he needs me to drive him and it's an hour and a half away. Any advice?

Why in Earth would you get a friend to take a poorly child to soft play because your wanker boyfriend is sulking?

I am friend balia meant that the OP should call a friend to come and take her boyfriend to softplay, as he is behaving so immaturely.

Why would anyone take a sick child to soft play? The mind boggles.

And why, even in normal circumstances, would he expect you to drive him home if it's 1.5h each way???
Why does he have legs?

He sounds entitled, selfish and a knob.

I like this, though: the OP should call a friend to come and take her boyfriend to softplay.

He is now having a snooze (the boyfriend, not the sick child). Thanks for the responses - a couple of you have mentioned self esteem. Is tolerating this behavior a self esteem issue? Genuine question. How do I know if I have self esteem issues?

Soft play pfftt, OP needs to put him in Time out, that time out should include shoving him onto a bus.

Would you tell a friend to tell that she should tell him to bugger off home, if she was in this situation?

How do I know if I have self esteem issues?

If you're allowing a grown man to piss about your house sulking while you feed him and clean up after him, just because "he doesn't fancy" going home, you probably have self-esteem issues.

How do I know if I have self esteem issues?

When you think he "needs" you to drive him.
And don't dump a bf who expects to be given more attention than a sick child.

I once had one show up with a friend unannounced when DS was ill and I was hardly sleeping during the night. He got a ticking and was sent on his way.

Yes, tolerating this behaviour from an adult is indicative of a low self-esteem.

He is very immature and behaves like a twat. Anyone who was halfway decent would be the one preparing food and cleaning whilst you look after your sick child, not stopping, sulking and the kipping around like Kevin the Teenager.

He sounds like a waste of space.

Tell him to go home if he's bored. And then in a few days tell him that's it and things haven't worked out. What a total millstone around your neck he sounds.

I would ask him to go. When you feel unwell, the last thing you need is someone grumping around acting like it's all your fault they're bored. If your son is old enough to do lego, he's old enough to pick up your bored boyfriend's vibe.

She already asked. He doesn't fancy it. So tell him.

Thanks for the responses. They have got me thinking. If he doesn't shape up after his 'nap' then I shall send him home.

While he's asleep take your key of his key ring. Send him out and don't let him back in.

Stop skivvying after him.

Why isn't he at work??

He's taking a nap! Bitching and whining must be so exhausting.

Is tolerating this behavior a self esteem issue? Genuine question. How do I know if I have self esteem issues?

Yes. Anyone saying they are bored [child or adult] in my house gets a long list of chores they can do to alleviate the boredom. If they said it again they would be told their options: find something useful to do, shut up or sod off.

If I was looking after a sick child with an adult moping about, they would have been told to do one if they sat there whimpering about being bored. As I have said a million times, only boring people get bored so go busy yourself or go home.

I agree with what Giles said; take his key off him and send him on his way.

Could you get a friend to take him to soft play?

I like you Balia. I like you alot.

Yep ditch him

I think it's a self-esteem problem when you see someone else's bratty behaviour as something you need to manage or cajole, rather than as a reason not to hang out with them.

He's taking a nap?

Maybe he was overtired.

Seriously, OP???

just suggested he gets a train ( i live 5mins from a station) but he doesn't fancy it

Perhaps if you shift up a gear from suggesting to insisting that he leave your home, you might reclaim an ounce of your personal power. And yes, if he has a key this should be removed. He sounds both irritating and pointless. You are mother to your child, not him.

Grrrr (on your behalf lol) ....

Is he still napping? I'd wake him up and heave him out. He can nap on the train or wherever else that isn't your space and time. In my opinion.

I'd put him on the next train home. If you act now, he'll be home before his bedtime.