Finding it do hard to be happy for people!!!ashamed

[Lookingforabetteryear]

Left an ea relationship 6 months ago. Have a young baby with ex partner. He's horrid in most ways. I'm 27 and I do have lots of friends but all I'm doing is going to weddings and engagement celebrations!!! I feel like my chance of havin all the loveliness that goes with having a great partner has been removed. I'm smiling along but I am so envious inside!! I need to become genuinely happy for them!!

You will be happy for them once you've shaken off the feeling that you've had your life-long ration of happiness and there's no more left for you.

Six months isn't all that long to recover from the terrible harm an EA relationship does to you. You're only 27, there's decades of happiness and contentment to come. Honestly, there really is.

No you don't. That's not the answer. The concept of being happy for other people is a load of guff throat just makes you feel guilty if you're not - IMHO. Instead, You need to try to accept your own situation as it is, which is a far harder thing to do, but will stand you in better stead in years to come (although if course your own situation may change one day).

For a start, how about congratulating yourself for getting out of that relationship? That's a big success, in my book.

Thanks guys you are right! I still have a long way to come in getting over the horror of the relationship. Acceptance on of my new life as single parents is definitely key.

Stop looking at what others have, look at what you have.

1. a baby
2. you are free from EA relationship
3. you have Internet / MN

Add to the list.
I'm sure you have a lot if good stuff in your life.
When you start to feel negative toward others try saying a mantra like 'bless them/ change me'
It works for me.

Yes defo. It's a slog with the break up and new baby but of course baby brings lots of joy. Mantra sounds useful!