Is this a good idea?

[Getupanna]

Hey all,

I've been separated from my son's father for 18 months now and I'm feeling ready to date again. I've met up with a couple of guys recently which has been fun, but nobody I've liked enough to see again. Still, my confidence is very much on the up, which feels great!
I just met up with a friend for lunch and the bar tender was super cute. We had a lot of eye contact and I got the impression he was checking me out. I very nearly left my number for him, but I bottled it. My question is this; would it be very weird to send him my number in the post? Or could I pass it off as both assertive and quirky?! It's not a place I go to very much, so unlikely I'll see him again. I feel like I should grasp opportunities but really don't want to look unhinged.....

Advice please!

I think that would be a bit weird... I would run a mile if someone sent me their number in the mail. It shows lack of social awareness.

You know yourself that it's a bit of weird thing to do (ergo you are normal and socially well adjusted...). Don't do it.

Just go out of your way to go back to the bar and talk to him. That's what an assertive, confident woman would do.

In all honesty, no, don't do that. It doesn't look assertive, it looks stalkerish and like you lack the courage of your convictions. Really assertive would be to ask him on a date there and then.

If as is understandable you don't want to be quite that assertive, just make a point of going back and try to get to know him.

Don't do it! Go back to the bar with some friends.

No, don't do that. It would be weird.

How about going back there with a friend sometime soon and asking him out there and then?

Agree with previous comments about not sending your number in the post.

You could ring up the bar/go back there saying you lost an earring or something and if it should turn up here is my number.