Have nc for this. H and I have had a terrible year: main issues are his drinking (not major drunkenness but drinking every day), lack of intimacy (not sex but affection -- he makes no effort), and his inability/refusal to prioritise family time over drinking/slobbing out: he almost never does anything with me and DD at weekends, even going to park is a big ask.
After months of this I asked him to move out six weeks ago on a trial basis for a month, telling DD he was just going away to work. He moved in with friend, called every day saying he was broken, would change/stop drinking etc. Has not moved back in, but has been dropping by every day and for past fortnight had appeared that things had turned a corner: one can of beer in two weeks, lots of attention, really considerate, all the stuff I had been missing.
Then, Friday night he picks DD up from nursery, brings her here and cooks me a meal (no booze), we sleep together. Was like old times. He stayed over. I was apprehensive about this as didn't want to upset or confuse DD or move too fast but it seemed very natural so went with it.
Then Sat, after having promised to take DD out for the day, he cleaned the house and then went back to bed and spent the whole day there while I ran errands with DD. I was mildly irritated but let it go as he had worked a 14-hour shift on Fri. Sat night I asked him what his plans were for the rest of the w/e: he said he wanted to take DD and I out for a treat today and spoil us and could he stay over... I went to bed (alone), feeling cautious but wanting to give him the benefit of the doubt.
Today he disappeared at 11, saying he needed to do an errand and then we heard nothing from him. I assumed he had thought better of moving too fast and gone to friend's house, then got back from the park at fiveish to find him in the kitchen, not drunk but having clearly been drinking, still drinking. He then stuck a movie on and watched with DD, I then put her to bed and when I went back to the living room found him crashed out on the sofa. Woke him and asked him pointedly but politely whether he thought it was time he went back to friend's house and he rolled over and muttered something about "why do you have to spoil everything?"
After everything that has happened this feels like a real insult. I feel he has violated my trust completely by reverting to the exact behaviour that prompted me to ask him to leave within the space of a weekend (and a BH weekend at that), and to do so in our home with our DD here. Am I over-reacting? Or is he taking the piss?