Feeling wobbly

[Redtartanshoes]

After 2 1/2 years of on/off with dp I finally called it off last week. There were great times but lots of bad things also. The main issue was control and jealousy...
The past week has been ok, he's acted like a twat but it made it easier if I'm honest. I've gone NC as it's the only way to do it.

Today I just feel wobbly though. Anxious. Sad.Lonely.
I've had a great day out with ds and friends but now it's Sunday night and I feel like I'm caving in.

Just ramblings. Sorry

All totally normal feelings redtartan

You've already done the hardest part, and now it's time to "grieve" a wee bit, for want of a better word.

Plenty of folk here on MN to keep you company and talk to....

Sending you a hug x

Hey there
I have been in your shoes, just wanted to offer you some support. It is completely natural and normal to feel like you do now, but I promise it will pass.
You are changing your life for the better, for good reasons. Be kind to yourself while you grieve. Not so much for what it became, but for the hope you had of what it might have been.
Take care and tonight just distract yourself. No romcoms though! :-)

You are a week ahead of me, as I'm ending it this evening for similar reasons. Keep going

Thanks. I know it's for the best, and while it would be the easy thing to do
To cave in and go back I absolutely know that I can't, not just for me but for ds, the way he treated me is not showing ds how to have healthy relationships in the future.

Just a bit teary and emotional and PMT riddled

You're right Red NC is the only way.

It gets easier I've been there and you'll never regret protecting your DS.

been there too! glad to report i'm out the other side in one whole piece.

you're going to face more wobbly moments but remember that the first step is always the hardest and from there keep one foot in front of the other and keep walking forward! NC is the way to go so here's some for you for taking the first step.

dont do what i once did and stop and start / go back and forth until you have left your dignity (and knickers) on the floor. just look straight ahead.

grieve the relationship but realise that you are worth more than a hot / cold relationship - its not good for you nor for ds.

while you haven't provided the ins and outs of it all its enough that you finally feel the way you do.

remember its only natural to miss him (even he was a class A twat) but remember you are moving forward with your life. good luck!