I can't stand DDs dad - my DP

[givemeareason]

Ok I'm probably going to make myself sound awful here but I just can't bear being around him.

I got pregnant after a year of dating. Unplanned but I can't imagine life without my daughter now.

DD is nearly a year old, and I have got to the point where I just can't bear being in the same room as my 'D'P.

He is smug, judgemental, point scoring, hyper and just bloody annoying. I'm turning into a miserable bag as I'm so unhappy being around him.

I wanted to make things work for DDs sake but I can't take it anymore.

Sorry just needed to get that off my chest.

I still have a few months on my tenancy anyway, but he will be leaving not us.

By the time my house purchase goes through the tenancy will be up so it will work out well.

I don't really care what he does anymore. No doubt he'll go crying to anyone who will listen telling everyone how cruel I am.

Good grief get rid, you can't be his meal ticket.

What a knobbing arse!

Leaving him will be the best decision you could possibly make for your dd and yourself. Thank goodness you didn't buy a house with him it would have been so much harder to extricate yourself.

He's a bully isn't he? Picking on old people for no reason etc... That's what you saw and I'm not surprised you felt horrified. Let him cry to others... you know the truth.

he sounds like an absolute nightmare - from this thread and the other I think hes hiding something from you. I don't understand people who cant have a grown up conversation about money when in a relationship together - why would you throw a wobbly other than to get out of speaking about it in a normal fashion? sounds like he has serious issues...

we are kind of in the same boat as you with money - when it came to buying a house together we went to a solicitor too see how we could protect my money for me if anything happened - my OH made it absolutely clear he didn't want any of it and that what I done with my money was my choice. We signed some forms which as well as protecting my deposit also gives me a bigger % of the house if anything happens and we split up before we get married.

It's called a "Deed of Trust" peggy. This form of agreement is absolutely vital where a couple aren't married and there's an unequal contribution to the deposit and mortgage-payments.

I'm so glad that the OP has seen her "partner" in his true colours. From reading the other thread yesterday he'd packed but had not gone because he has nowhere to go, apparently. That's a shame.

You have decided it is over.

Why not tell him it is over and you are kicking him out now.

Are you afraid he will refuse to move out?

I've just read your other thread OP. I'm so glad you're protecting your and do from this bullying cocklodger.

You come across as very strong and determined but you worry too much about what other people think of you. Please don't. What he thinks is irrelevant...and whatever he tells other people is irrelevant too. If you want to subtly get your side across choose the most gossipy person you know and confide in them that he was wanting to live off you and take your money...and that he's a shit to old people in cafes.

*You and your dd. (New phone with a will of its own.)

He sounds a horrible man with a very short fuse. Do you feel safe in asking him to leave? Could you get a friend/sibling/parent to be with you?