Living with someone who is 'hard work' - how do you cope?
I work 2 jobs. Obviously this means I don't get much time to do housework and so on. But I do bits as I go. He does a big clean up every once in a while (once every 3 weeks?) and then has a go at me because all the mess is apparently mine - it really isn't. Sometimes stuff builds up as there literally isn't anywhere to put everything.
Has no friends. He has fallen out with most of his crowd - two or three remain but I'm fairly sure out of pity. They will occasionally agree to having a drink but because most people refuse to have anything to do with him this is infrequent (I mean if there's a big event like a wedding he isn't invited.) He gets angry about this and rants and raves and then seems to realise they are his only friends. He's been angsting for ages over whether or not to go to a BBQ and said yesterday he'd decided not to go. I said that was unfair as his mate had bought the food and drink. Long moan about my life and how terrible it is.
Takes medication at night at about 8, spends evening eating chocolate and watching films. That's IT. Only hobbies are playing a guitar and going to the gym.
He's crude and boorish and rude. Dreadful table manners, yawns loudly and obnoxiously, speaks too loudly, sneezes and coughs but won't cover mouth. Small things i know but hard to deal with .
I seem to spend my days apologising for him!
What CAN I do? I'm so tired and fed up.