is my relationship with my 15 yo son ok/ typical/ normal?

[mrsbrownsgirls]

Not sure where to post this but here goes.

My 15 yo is the eldest of 3. He has always been a quiet boy. V good grades at school. Plenty of friends ( ALL girls - this has always been so)

I Split up with his dad a year ago. Kids go week about between our homes which are half a mile apart.I have an Amicable if strained relationship with XP.

Son rarely communicates with me or his dad. Teenage grunts mostly .
sometimes gives me a quick hug and tells me he loves me.

WOuld spend all day online if I let him.
WHen not online is alone in his room under the covers asking when he can go online again.

NO outside interests, no desire to join any clubs or anything.Does not want to go on holiday .

If I try to engage him in conversation , ask him if anything is concerning him he gets annoyed and says "I'm fine Mum"

Occasionally goes out with friends to cinema. Does not want to do anything at all I suggest. Same with his dad. we are both concerned.
He likes school.

I have a new (lovely) partner who stays over sometimes. Son is polite to him, never conversational. ExP is keen to paint new P as the villain of the piece.

I would appreciate any input from you wise people.
maybe he is a normal 15 yo boy?
Thanks .

One2one ie you and him. So he has your undivided attention. Keep it light!

Mines 12 and is like that. Luckily he is still young enough to be chivvied out for fresh air and outings but the rest of it describes my ds perfectly.

My 15 year old is lovely, chatty, helpful, popular with many friends etc but has barely left his room this summer! He "can't be arsed" to arrange anything or go anywhere and if I suggest anything he says "nah it's ok I am fine mum"!

He just seems to like his own company. He pokes his head out of his room for food, or to give us an occasionally witty comment but in the main he seems happy enough on his x box or Netflix.

Nice to read all this and know that it's pretty normal for his age group :)

I semi joke with the other parents of ds' cycling friends about this very topic. We comment to each other about how lovely their ds/dd is, and we respond, "Who? ", so I have suggested that at cycling events, we all sit in a circle beside our child. At a given signal, all the parents get up and move round two seats. They are they responsible for that stroppy teenager, who might actually listen to them because they are not the parent

I now get other parents to suggest things to ds - eg that his saddle needs to go up or that he needs to adjust his training programme

so relieved at all these responses.
I will post about my 13 yo daughter later...

Your relationship sounds normal.
One thing. I am prob way off course.
You said all your sons friends are female. Is there a chance he could be gay. It's unusual for a straight boy to have only female friends. It's usually mixed or mainly boys.

Sounds totally normal. In my experience (not a parent but a teacher) they tend to become much more communicative when they are around 16/17.

However I also wonder if possibly he might be gay? Just a thought.

Sorry by 'they' I meant teenage boys.

yes have thought he might be gay which is of no concern