I've never taken my bra off infront of anyone

[ProfessorPickles]

Is anyone else the same or am I alone on this one?

I cannot stand the way my breasts look and I'm far too afraid to take my bra off even infront of long term partners, I just can't do it.
It has been made even worse since I've had my son as they've changed and I hate them even more than I did!

It really does make me feel depressed as I want a new partner but it puts me off because I know I won't want to take my bra off infront of them and even if they don't pressure me to I'll still feel awkward for not.

I just want to feel normal and attractive once in my life and I just feel disgusting

I HATE the way my breasts look out of a bra. I never used to unleash them in front of partners, always in a bra. This was after childbirth and breast feeding.

when I met DP, I explained it to him, he was fine with my wearing a bra all the time, but after about 6 months I started not wearing a bra when we were relaxing at home, DP can't get enough of them, he loves big jiggly boobs so he's in luck. I still can't stand up in front of him bra less but he understands and is happy to wait for me to feel comfortable.

take your time

That's good that you finally felt comfortable with someone, maybe I've just not met the right person?

I was with someone 4 years and never showed him and 2 years with someone else and didn't show him either!
It's frustrating more than anything
I'd love to be able to be completely comfortable with someone!

Start with yourself. We all have bits that are different to perfect. That's the only thing tho, different. I think you are assigning an awful lot of negativity to one part of your body.

I think most women have at least one aspect of their body they're not completely happy with. I have this thing about my mummy tummy! It's all I can see! If I could afford one, I'd get a tummy tuck. You can get nice lingerie that make you feel great in, you could get fitted if you haven't done already and get a few nice bits that make you feel good.

I'm not happy with my jiggly baby belly. I'm a size 8-10 - which sounds small and like I shouldn't have much fat on me, but I have a pouch of loose droopy skin - made even worse/more accentuated by a csection incision with DC3... My boobs resemble 2 paracetamol on an ironing board and my belly sticks out further than them - which makes them look smaller - which makes my belly look bigger and so on and so forth...

Just take a deep breath and do it.

It wasn't so bad when I was with ex-husband as I felt he'd be accepting because it was with his children it became as bad as it did, so getting naked with my DP for the first time was SCARY as I couldn't reconcile my body with bearing his children, because none of them are his!

I still get self conscious when he touches my loose jiggly belly in bed - I can't believe he isn't disgusted but he's genuinely not. The handful of women that have "perfect bodies" are a minority... (Lucky bitches!)

My breasts are wonky. Hence the username. One's an A and the other's a D. All my long term partners have seen them - I figured it was easier than explaining why I wasn't taking my top off. No matter what they look like, anyone who is in a bra-removing type scenario with you who is put off by your breasts isn't worth removing your bra for anyway. ;)

My feet on the other hand... Yeurgh not getting those out for anyone!!

In my experience if you have got to the stage of taking your bra off in front of a man they are not actually that bothered what your breasts look like they just want to get on and do the deed!
Honestly most men just like breasts; big, small, pert or droopy if they can handle them they are happy.

Im not trying to be glib I just think that you are being too harx on yourself.

Same here, hate how they look out of a bra