therapy advice

[number99bus]

To cut a long story short, I got divorced 20 years ago, and I have two grown up children. Im 47. I have had a couple of long term relationships but never married or moved in with them and have been single for a while. I am scared of letting anyone get close to me and feel I am going to end up lonely.
Recently my ex has intimated that we should try again. Despite all I went through 20 years ago (fairly clean split) I do still love him as the father of my lads, but am hesitant to go back even he he thinks we could work.
Does anyone think that councilling may help me make good choices?? I am so miserable at the moment.

Why did you split in the first place, would those problems still be there if you got back together. Why after 20 years do you want to get back together.

Counselling will help you talk things through, but actually chatting to friends and getting your emotions out will also help. I've found over the years as much as you to keep things to yourself it isn't helpful and can be slightly destructive. Even talking to someone you don't know that well can help as they can give you an unbiased opinion about it all.

I feel your pain having been single for a long time too (-:
I hope you make the right decision for yourself and not just because you are lonely.

I cannot talk to friends as they naturally are biased towards me, hence the want for counselling. He left when the DC's were very small for another woman. The relationship didnt last but I wouldnt take him back. I do have some days out with him and the DC's now, but it just makes me so sad that we could not work through it at the time. I resent him for not being there emotionally for me when I struggled but now I feel I have wasted my life and Im now pretty lonely when the weekends come around. I have friends, but they don't share the history - things that I can only really share with him as we have known each other so long. When we have evenings together as a family, I just get so depressed about what could have been I guess.
I'm just not happy, and never meet anyone who I really want to be with.