Thoroughbreds...hmmm

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So, came across a text from DH's mate in Australia - he's heading there soon and has a free weekend between work. The context of conversation was about restaurants / pubs drinking as his friend coming for the weekend. The last message was 'and thoroughbreds, don't forget the mules' - I for one know strippers are referred to as thoroughbreds...so made me feel pretty uncomfortable.

He's saying they want to go to the races ( odd from he who has zero interest in horses, and not really what you'd do in a rare weekend on oz...)

Any comments?

His friend is pretty slang obsessed...

onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/thoroughbred

In my world thoroughbreds are fillies - ie fit women. Mules are mingers.

Never been to Aus tho is I don't know the lingo.

I have to admit I'd never heard of it? Personally I think if it bothers you you should chat to your DH about it. Ask him if he knew the term and warn him that his friend might be meaning that and by not putting him right your DH might be putting himself in an awkward situation in future.

You'll have to ask him. The stripper reference would have passed my by, I'm afraid. I was thinking the difference between 'thoroughbreds' and 'mules' might refer to people of mixed nationality/race vs 'pure bred' natives...

Why don't you forget about the text and the slang and instead have a frank discussion with your dh about strippers. How does he view them, has he been to strip clubs, does he want to go, would he go, etc.

Then tell him your opinion. Would he do it he knew you didn't want him too, would he use the 'peer pressure' excuse that he'd rather please his friends than his wife, etc.

You need to make it clear where you stand and also to understand his views.

To me a thoroughbred implies good breeding as well as looks, which kinda rules out strippers.

Why not ask him which particular definition of sexist tripe he was intending...

Thanks Twinkle - it's the same in my world. Maybe it's an Australian thing to refer a stripper as a thoroughbred. Stripper or not it's referring to women and certainly not horse racing. Do donkeys race? It is sexist tripe.

He's fully aware of my views on strippers. Not much I can do on other side of world though...

I bow to your superior knowledge of Australian slang, OP, but one thing that did occur to me is that the Melbourne Cup - the biggest horse race in Oz and a social as much as a sporting event, so attended by people just for the day out as opposed to racing aficionados only - takes place in early November, so if your DH's trip coincides with that and is within reasonable travelling distance of Melbourne, they might be going there just for the experience?

I appreciate I may be clutching at straws though!

To me, thoroughbreds would be attractive women, not just those who work in strip clubs.

I think if I were in your position, I'd be telling him not to treat me like an idiot. What is the trust like between you normally? What would be a deal breaker for you?

Either way it looks like he's heading off for a shag.

You obviously don't trust your partner, or you'd have no reason to "come across" a text. I think you need a frank discussion about whether there's any point in continuing if the trust has gone.

His Australian mate calls cigarettes 'burners', first few drinks 'cleansers' so yes I am certain the 'horsey' references don't involve the Melborne Cup, which his trip doesn't coincide with...from online slang: ugh.

a woman with a perfect physique. Usually referring to a stripper. The perfect "10". A woman whose physical features are as finely toned as a race horse.
Damn... Man, did you see the tits and ass on that chick? Man she's built like a thoroughbred!

AP - would you trust your partner who swore black & blue he didn't look at porn, then I check his history when DS. Using iPad. Guess what. So you are probably right, this could be it...

That's what I meant (I realise my post sound accusatory towards you - I didn't mean it too). I meant that it sounds like he's given you reason previously not to trust him...